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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 511565" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Hi, our kids have a similar time line for foster care and adoption. Mine has a diagnosis of attachment disorder to go along with his other issues due to this. Typical behavioral methods were a disaster for us and continue to be so. Kids with histories like our kids have so many risk factors it can be super hard to sort through even with a good neuropsychologist. I found one thing they are not great with is attachment issues. They dont understand the full impact on a child and how not being with the right kind of therapist can actually make things become worse. In addition, it can be very hard to tell the difference between toxic exposure before birth, family history leading to mental health issues, milder autism spectrum issues, adhd/odd/anxiety, sensory integration disorders etc... they can overlap in so many ways.</p><p></p><p>Was your Occupational Therapist (OT)/Speech Language Pathologist (SLP) evaluation private or public school? (I am an Speech Language Pathologist (SLP) who works in schools so not dissing them, just that qualification is very different)... If she is continuing with some sensory issues then there could be much more going on than they realize. I would, if not done...go to a private clinic and ask specifically for attention to the sensory challenges along with a re-evaluation for the motor issues. If you think there could be auditory processing, then there probably is. At least given her delays, there could be a language processing issue. It could just be that she needs much more TIME to process and schools rarely allow for that time, I am sure you probably took classes where they actually had you count how long you waited before you called on kids for an answer...only to find it is not even a couple of seconds...we just dont give kids time enough. </p><p></p><p>I bet by this time, when you have done so much investigating it can seem like nothing will help. I am here to tell you that even after 12 years I am finding new things that are making a difference. I promise you there is hope. Usually not one answer, a bunch of things that combine to help. medications can be super helpful but when they are not good, they can be a disaster! been there done that!!!!</p><p></p><p>If you have a pediatric developmental therapy clinic anywhere near you maybe go through them. You might want to just make sure you are not dealing with any form of mild autism, or even just a child who has some autistic traits but not the full spectrum (currently called Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified). These kids act very much like your daughter. (of course many of the other things mentioned do too so am just throwing out one more consideration). </p><p></p><p>You are for sure not alone .... also there are many of us here who are in related professions and it can almost work against us at times! I think people sometimes think well, you can handle this on your own, others get defensive and at times I feel like I have to dumb down what I say to people to make them not think I am doubting them or not valuing their input. Can be frustrating. Most of us are too close to our own kids to see all of the issues but on the other hand, as with any parent we know our kids the BEST.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there, you are among friends. It is exhausting, never give up the fight. But if you need to, it is ok to take a break once in a while!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 511565, member: 12886"] Hi, our kids have a similar time line for foster care and adoption. Mine has a diagnosis of attachment disorder to go along with his other issues due to this. Typical behavioral methods were a disaster for us and continue to be so. Kids with histories like our kids have so many risk factors it can be super hard to sort through even with a good neuropsychologist. I found one thing they are not great with is attachment issues. They dont understand the full impact on a child and how not being with the right kind of therapist can actually make things become worse. In addition, it can be very hard to tell the difference between toxic exposure before birth, family history leading to mental health issues, milder autism spectrum issues, adhd/odd/anxiety, sensory integration disorders etc... they can overlap in so many ways. Was your Occupational Therapist (OT)/Speech Language Pathologist (SLP) evaluation private or public school? (I am an Speech Language Pathologist (SLP) who works in schools so not dissing them, just that qualification is very different)... If she is continuing with some sensory issues then there could be much more going on than they realize. I would, if not done...go to a private clinic and ask specifically for attention to the sensory challenges along with a re-evaluation for the motor issues. If you think there could be auditory processing, then there probably is. At least given her delays, there could be a language processing issue. It could just be that she needs much more TIME to process and schools rarely allow for that time, I am sure you probably took classes where they actually had you count how long you waited before you called on kids for an answer...only to find it is not even a couple of seconds...we just dont give kids time enough. I bet by this time, when you have done so much investigating it can seem like nothing will help. I am here to tell you that even after 12 years I am finding new things that are making a difference. I promise you there is hope. Usually not one answer, a bunch of things that combine to help. medications can be super helpful but when they are not good, they can be a disaster! been there done that!!!! If you have a pediatric developmental therapy clinic anywhere near you maybe go through them. You might want to just make sure you are not dealing with any form of mild autism, or even just a child who has some autistic traits but not the full spectrum (currently called Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified). These kids act very much like your daughter. (of course many of the other things mentioned do too so am just throwing out one more consideration). You are for sure not alone .... also there are many of us here who are in related professions and it can almost work against us at times! I think people sometimes think well, you can handle this on your own, others get defensive and at times I feel like I have to dumb down what I say to people to make them not think I am doubting them or not valuing their input. Can be frustrating. Most of us are too close to our own kids to see all of the issues but on the other hand, as with any parent we know our kids the BEST. Hang in there, you are among friends. It is exhausting, never give up the fight. But if you need to, it is ok to take a break once in a while! [/QUOTE]
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