Welcome Acacia,
Thank you for your post. This forum is a safe place to have landed. You show great strength and understanding of the issues and principles involved in your situation. You are right that is it a slow process to learn how to detach and set boundaries. I am also in my 60s and my difficult child is 36. I have been on this site for 2 months, and only recently realized the detachment from emotional fears to allow me to begin to stop enabling. (like you, I still fall down and doubt now and then.)
I also felt (and feel) exhausted, but through the support on this forum, I am becoming stronger. You are so right that we can learn so much from reading others’ postings here, even though the responses are not directed specifically to our own situations. I come here every day to seek peace and wisdom and always get built up stronger and leave the site with some relief. Keep posting and visiting here. It helps so much.
