Welcome! Love the FOG acronym...You do sound good. I, too, am in my 60's and son is 39..This summer I developed a health issue related to all the stress and anxiety. My doctor told me plainly and clearly that I needed to let go and stop supporting my son and his girlfriend. The heart issue frightened me enough to make some changes. I realize I am as,addicted to helping him as he is to drugs..
It is the hardest thing we have ever done.. Sure isn't textbook detachment, like COM says, there is alot of trial and error involved..
At times we make good progress, occasionally get more involved then run the other way in fear that we will sabotage the progress we've made as well as his.
I have been trying to ignore the fact that he will be evicted..Because the fear and grief it evokes is overwhelming..Need to save the energy for when it happens.
So glad you are joining us.
xox, Carolita
