Yes, this is a very common reaction from our difficult adult children. Somehow in their minds they equate our love with fixing all their life problems. Of course the "mommy" in us wants to do just that, kiss the boo boo and make it all better. One thing that has really helped me to successfully detach is I had to stop thinking of my 33 year old adult son as my "little boy". In my minds eye I would see him as the sweet little boy that I so much wanted back. I now see the long hair, full beard, wrinkled eyes, adult man that he is.
I'm so glad you are working on this for yourself. It's ok to take your life back and to do good things for yourself.
I'm really glad you are here with us.
