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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 271641" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi, there.</p><p></p><p>To me, the behaviors you are describing are too severe to just be ADHD/ODD. Most of us here feel that ODD is kind of a useless diagnosis anyway. </p><p></p><p>The medications not working are a red flag that she may have been misdiagnosed. My son was worse on stimulants. In mood-disordered kids, for example, ADHD medications usually make them worse. Same with some Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids. I have a few questions that can help us help you.</p><p></p><p>1/Are there any psychiatric problems on either side of the child's family tree. That includes her bio. father even if she never sees him. Was she ever abused by him? Ever abused at all, both physically or sexually or mentally? Does she see her father? What's the situation with him?</p><p></p><p>2/How was her early development? Did she talk on time, make good, steady eye contact with you and strangers, cuddle, do her motor skills on time? Potty on time? How does she socialize with her same age peers? Does she ever seem "clueless" about people and life? What sort of things set her off? Does she transition all right from one activity to another? Any sensitivities to material, sound, texture, light, crowds, etc? </p><p></p><p>3/Has she ever been evaluated by a neuropsychologist.</p><p></p><p>About your fiance, my honest advice (as one who remarried as well) is that you should think twice about the marriage and living arrangements if he is getting impatient with your daughter. Trying to deal with a difficult child and an unsympathetic husband is difficult. No matter how much you love him, it may not be enough. He needs to accept your daughter as she is and not just expect her to "get with the program" and behave. She probably is not able to do that and things may get worse. Does HE have kids? Do you have other kids too?</p><p></p><p>This is complicated. First and foremost I'd get that neuropsychologist evaluation (a private one) scheduled. Deal with school seperately--they can get her an IEP, but their testing is usually not as accurate as private testing. Next, maybe go to therapy yourself so you can decide about your relationship and anything else that is bothering you. </p><p></p><p>Welcome to the board. Good people come here <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 271641, member: 1550"] Hi, there. To me, the behaviors you are describing are too severe to just be ADHD/ODD. Most of us here feel that ODD is kind of a useless diagnosis anyway. The medications not working are a red flag that she may have been misdiagnosed. My son was worse on stimulants. In mood-disordered kids, for example, ADHD medications usually make them worse. Same with some Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids. I have a few questions that can help us help you. 1/Are there any psychiatric problems on either side of the child's family tree. That includes her bio. father even if she never sees him. Was she ever abused by him? Ever abused at all, both physically or sexually or mentally? Does she see her father? What's the situation with him? 2/How was her early development? Did she talk on time, make good, steady eye contact with you and strangers, cuddle, do her motor skills on time? Potty on time? How does she socialize with her same age peers? Does she ever seem "clueless" about people and life? What sort of things set her off? Does she transition all right from one activity to another? Any sensitivities to material, sound, texture, light, crowds, etc? 3/Has she ever been evaluated by a neuropsychologist. About your fiance, my honest advice (as one who remarried as well) is that you should think twice about the marriage and living arrangements if he is getting impatient with your daughter. Trying to deal with a difficult child and an unsympathetic husband is difficult. No matter how much you love him, it may not be enough. He needs to accept your daughter as she is and not just expect her to "get with the program" and behave. She probably is not able to do that and things may get worse. Does HE have kids? Do you have other kids too? This is complicated. First and foremost I'd get that neuropsychologist evaluation (a private one) scheduled. Deal with school seperately--they can get her an IEP, but their testing is usually not as accurate as private testing. Next, maybe go to therapy yourself so you can decide about your relationship and anything else that is bothering you. Welcome to the board. Good people come here :happy: [/QUOTE]
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