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<blockquote data-quote="JJJ" data-source="post: 542460" data-attributes="member: 1169"><p>Welcome back! Glad you found us again but wish you didn't have to <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> </p><p></p><p><strong>In the school issue</strong>, our district moves everyone 'up' with their class as which class (fresh, soph, jr, sr) they are in only matter for the social events (ie. the Spring Fling dance is only for Freshman, Prom is only for Seniors, sophomores wear green during Spirit Week, etc.). Now, for the matter of which actual subjects (health, English I, US History, etc) they take, that comes down to which classes they passed. It is not uncommon for a student who struggles to have a mix of subjects as they must retake any subject they flunked but move ahead in the classes that they passed. Since he is at a therapeutic school, instruction is probably pretty individualized. Since he is not invested in school, have you looked at changing his goals to more vocational classes? (assuming he can read, write and do math to a functional -- 6th grade -- level).</p><p></p><p><strong>With the ex-husband issue</strong>, ignore him. You have the constitutional right to parent your daughter as you see fit during your parenting time. You decide who she sees or does not see when she is with you. Additionally, with your son in DCFS custody, they would also have to agree to a visit and you can set it up where one of their caseworkers supervises. He'd have a hard time convincing a judge that a state-supervised short visit is so dangerous to your daughter that it needs to be prohibited. That being said, how does your daughter feel about a visit? did difficult child ever hurt her? is she in counseling to deal with her emotions about difficult child? Is he also difficult child's dad, if not is difficult child's dad involved?</p><p></p><p><strong>With the medications</strong>, who knows why some of these psychiatrists do what they do <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/crazy2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":crazy2:" title="crazy :crazy2:" data-shortname=":crazy2:" /> I do like to try and have psychiatrist lower my kids medications if they have been stable for a while but if they get "agitated, depressed and showing some paranoia" those medications go right back to their previous dose!!!</p><p></p><p><strong>As far as reunification,</strong> Kanga has been out of our home for over 4 years, her goal is not reunification anymore, she will be 18 soon, and I STILL panic whenever Residential Treatment Center (RTC) pushes for anything remotely related to her EVER coming home, even as an adult for a visit! That is our lovely parental PTSD. It does fade as reunification is taken off the table but these kids turned our homes into a war zone and we have the scars to prove it. </p><p></p><p></p><p><strong>Family therapy.....</strong>oh, the bane of my existance. Good luck in your first one today. After this initial one, you will have a feel for how the counselor runs them. With Kanga, we always have to set an agenda for the sessions, ie. today we will have Kanga tell mom about school and her science project; Kanga will be working on accepting both positive and negative feedback from mom. After one horrific incident, the goal for the family session was "Kanga will sit there quietly and listen while her mother expresses how Kanga's actions made her feel and the consequences of her actions."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JJJ, post: 542460, member: 1169"] Welcome back! Glad you found us again but wish you didn't have to :( [B]In the school issue[/B], our district moves everyone 'up' with their class as which class (fresh, soph, jr, sr) they are in only matter for the social events (ie. the Spring Fling dance is only for Freshman, Prom is only for Seniors, sophomores wear green during Spirit Week, etc.). Now, for the matter of which actual subjects (health, English I, US History, etc) they take, that comes down to which classes they passed. It is not uncommon for a student who struggles to have a mix of subjects as they must retake any subject they flunked but move ahead in the classes that they passed. Since he is at a therapeutic school, instruction is probably pretty individualized. Since he is not invested in school, have you looked at changing his goals to more vocational classes? (assuming he can read, write and do math to a functional -- 6th grade -- level). [B]With the ex-husband issue[/B], ignore him. You have the constitutional right to parent your daughter as you see fit during your parenting time. You decide who she sees or does not see when she is with you. Additionally, with your son in DCFS custody, they would also have to agree to a visit and you can set it up where one of their caseworkers supervises. He'd have a hard time convincing a judge that a state-supervised short visit is so dangerous to your daughter that it needs to be prohibited. That being said, how does your daughter feel about a visit? did difficult child ever hurt her? is she in counseling to deal with her emotions about difficult child? Is he also difficult child's dad, if not is difficult child's dad involved? [B]With the medications[/B], who knows why some of these psychiatrists do what they do :crazy: I do like to try and have psychiatrist lower my kids medications if they have been stable for a while but if they get "agitated, depressed and showing some paranoia" those medications go right back to their previous dose!!! [B]As far as reunification,[/B] Kanga has been out of our home for over 4 years, her goal is not reunification anymore, she will be 18 soon, and I STILL panic whenever Residential Treatment Center (RTC) pushes for anything remotely related to her EVER coming home, even as an adult for a visit! That is our lovely parental PTSD. It does fade as reunification is taken off the table but these kids turned our homes into a war zone and we have the scars to prove it. [B]Family therapy.....[/B]oh, the bane of my existance. Good luck in your first one today. After this initial one, you will have a feel for how the counselor runs them. With Kanga, we always have to set an agenda for the sessions, ie. today we will have Kanga tell mom about school and her science project; Kanga will be working on accepting both positive and negative feedback from mom. After one horrific incident, the goal for the family session was "Kanga will sit there quietly and listen while her mother expresses how Kanga's actions made her feel and the consequences of her actions." [/QUOTE]
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