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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 416743" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/hugs.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":hugs:" title="hugs :hugs:" data-shortname=":hugs:" /> Welcome.</p><p> </p><p>I, too, have stepchildren that were abused... The worst part is knowing you could have stopped it - had you known - but you didn't know - so you did the best you could and it wasn't enough. This is what I feel every day. I know - I know - that I am far from perfect, but do everything I can for the kids.</p><p> </p><p>You have a horrible situation to deal with. First off, you seem to be dealing with a child with some issues to begin with - and then he has the added trauma of the abuse. Did it happen in your home? Sometimes, just the mere <em>feeling</em> of not being safe can set off problems. With us - Onyxx has no problems whatsoever sleeping on the sofa - huge picture window one direction and deck doors with glass opposite - but if she goes into her room, the windows HAVE to be covered, and door closed (this has been a barrel of fun, lemme tell ya) - because when she was molested - it was in her room at her mother's - if she was on the sofa, in the living room, it was safe because it was PUBLIC. Now, she's working with this, and spends most nights in her room; but she doesn't sleep much. So - he may not feel safe.</p><p> </p><p>JJJ mentioned something about the 12-y/o. She's right, it's not all that uncommon. It's awful. With that many kids, I can see some room sharing going on... And that could mean you don't know. I really hope this isn't the case, but...</p><p> </p><p>More hugs. I do understand the horrible gut feeling.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 416743, member: 6705"] :hugs: Welcome. I, too, have stepchildren that were abused... The worst part is knowing you could have stopped it - had you known - but you didn't know - so you did the best you could and it wasn't enough. This is what I feel every day. I know - I know - that I am far from perfect, but do everything I can for the kids. You have a horrible situation to deal with. First off, you seem to be dealing with a child with some issues to begin with - and then he has the added trauma of the abuse. Did it happen in your home? Sometimes, just the mere [I]feeling[/I] of not being safe can set off problems. With us - Onyxx has no problems whatsoever sleeping on the sofa - huge picture window one direction and deck doors with glass opposite - but if she goes into her room, the windows HAVE to be covered, and door closed (this has been a barrel of fun, lemme tell ya) - because when she was molested - it was in her room at her mother's - if she was on the sofa, in the living room, it was safe because it was PUBLIC. Now, she's working with this, and spends most nights in her room; but she doesn't sleep much. So - he may not feel safe. JJJ mentioned something about the 12-y/o. She's right, it's not all that uncommon. It's awful. With that many kids, I can see some room sharing going on... And that could mean you don't know. I really hope this isn't the case, but... More hugs. I do understand the horrible gut feeling. [/QUOTE]
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