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<blockquote data-quote="mstang67chic" data-source="post: 113545" data-attributes="member: 2459"><p>No matter, you got the lawyer, he needs one so I wouldn't worry about it. But.....I would make it clear that if he doesn't accept the consequences of these charges or winds up in court again that you aren't getting him another lawyer. If he can't pay for one, that's what they have public defenders for. Put it on him. You've helped him this one time. If he blows it, it's all on him. You may want to check on the laws in your state though. If the age of majority is 19, you may still be required to provide an attorney as you are his parent. Just something to keep in mind.</p><p></p><p>We're at a stand still with our son. Everyone on his team is in agreement. We've done all we can to help or provide him with the services he needs to work on things or better himself. It's at the point now that it's all up to him. Yes, we'll support his efforts but he has to do it from here on out. The only problem is that he "doesn't DO effort". At this point, I provide what he legally needs and a little more if I think his behavior has warrented it. (Not often that happens though) husband and I are in the process of planning our course of action for when difficult child graduates and I have the feeling it's going to be a long road. (see post titled Help On Plan.....or something of that nature. LOL I've forgotten what it was called already) So yeah, I can empathize with you and your situation. It's tough but sometimes we have to force them to do for themselves.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mstang67chic, post: 113545, member: 2459"] No matter, you got the lawyer, he needs one so I wouldn't worry about it. But.....I would make it clear that if he doesn't accept the consequences of these charges or winds up in court again that you aren't getting him another lawyer. If he can't pay for one, that's what they have public defenders for. Put it on him. You've helped him this one time. If he blows it, it's all on him. You may want to check on the laws in your state though. If the age of majority is 19, you may still be required to provide an attorney as you are his parent. Just something to keep in mind. We're at a stand still with our son. Everyone on his team is in agreement. We've done all we can to help or provide him with the services he needs to work on things or better himself. It's at the point now that it's all up to him. Yes, we'll support his efforts but he has to do it from here on out. The only problem is that he "doesn't DO effort". At this point, I provide what he legally needs and a little more if I think his behavior has warrented it. (Not often that happens though) husband and I are in the process of planning our course of action for when difficult child graduates and I have the feeling it's going to be a long road. (see post titled Help On Plan.....or something of that nature. LOL I've forgotten what it was called already) So yeah, I can empathize with you and your situation. It's tough but sometimes we have to force them to do for themselves. [/QUOTE]
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