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<blockquote data-quote="keista" data-source="post: 437424" data-attributes="member: 11965"><p>Welcome. So sorry you are having such difficulties. </p><p></p><p>In addition to what Step said and asked, I'm going to suggest investing in a video camera if you haven't already. Unfortunately you have "believability issues". This is not uncommon. If you can get video of your son's (and your) actions, It might help in that area. You should NOT allow yourself to become his victim because ppl won't believe you. (Men have this problem with domestic violence when it is the WOMAN who is violent - the second a man defends himself, he is viewed as the guilty party) Of course "defending yourself" against a small child has different rules, like restraining or that "pushing away", but I got the sense you know that and that is all you were doing 2 years ago. I BELIEVE <strong>YOU</strong>.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Stop the pity party. It's just draining your positive energy. Yes, your diagnosis gave you son a better than average chance of having similar problems, but it was never a guarantee - just like eye color, hair color, and even skin color. It's true. I have a friend BORN into a lily white family, yet she has OLIVE skin. It's a gene from waaaaaaaaaaay back in their genetic line. </p><p></p><p>Instead of blaming yourself, focus your energy to get all the assistance for him you possibly can. Oh, that's, right, you ARE doing that! You're a GREAT Mom!</p><p></p><p>by the way I have a family member who thinks that if I would just baptize my kids, all their problems would go away. Trust me, if I thought it would work, I'd do it.</p><p></p><p>Stick around. You found a great place for support, insights and guidance.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="keista, post: 437424, member: 11965"] Welcome. So sorry you are having such difficulties. In addition to what Step said and asked, I'm going to suggest investing in a video camera if you haven't already. Unfortunately you have "believability issues". This is not uncommon. If you can get video of your son's (and your) actions, It might help in that area. You should NOT allow yourself to become his victim because ppl won't believe you. (Men have this problem with domestic violence when it is the WOMAN who is violent - the second a man defends himself, he is viewed as the guilty party) Of course "defending yourself" against a small child has different rules, like restraining or that "pushing away", but I got the sense you know that and that is all you were doing 2 years ago. I BELIEVE [B]YOU[/B]. Stop the pity party. It's just draining your positive energy. Yes, your diagnosis gave you son a better than average chance of having similar problems, but it was never a guarantee - just like eye color, hair color, and even skin color. It's true. I have a friend BORN into a lily white family, yet she has OLIVE skin. It's a gene from waaaaaaaaaaay back in their genetic line. Instead of blaming yourself, focus your energy to get all the assistance for him you possibly can. Oh, that's, right, you ARE doing that! You're a GREAT Mom! by the way I have a family member who thinks that if I would just baptize my kids, all their problems would go away. Trust me, if I thought it would work, I'd do it. Stick around. You found a great place for support, insights and guidance. [/QUOTE]
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