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<blockquote data-quote="caregiverkc" data-source="post: 437719" data-attributes="member: 12187"><p>Thank you for replying to me. You don't understand how great it feels to finally be able to talk about my son and all of the problems with other parents that understand what we are going through. </p><p></p><p>To answer your questions, all of the things that have happened in the last 2 years nothing traumatic has occurred. Of course, the everyday things and things that we can't control have happened, but for the most part everything started out of the blue with him.. After the Karate incident my husband and I researched different psychologists and psychiatrists that are specialized in kids, and my own doctor recommended his current psychiatrist, who is wonderful. The only problem is that when something happens, like now, he of course is on vacation. We spent the first appointment with him going over family history, talking to our son privately and also with us and filling out "tests". I'm not sure if that is what a neuropsychological evaluation is, but that's what we have done. He goes every 3 months back to the doctor for check ups and more often if needed.</p><p></p><p>The most upsetting thing about the incident with the police is that when they came into the bathroom, they asked what was going on and I told them it was just a temper tantrum. The one that took me away asked if it was mine or his..... I don't understand to this day how I was able to control myself when he asked me that and not just go off and ask him how he would even ask me that. Since that day things have ups and downs and right now we are going through the "down" part. Of course he is older now and we try to "reason" with him as much as you can, but that doesn't always work. Just last week he got mad because we had to take his sister to the doctor and I wasn't able to get a hold of his old babysitter to see if she could watch him. From there it just escalated throughout the day. He tried to run away telling me he didn't care about me and I am a "bad mommy". That only caused us to get into a wrestling match from me trying to keep him from running away. He's strong and it's scary to think about what he did and what could have happened. This lasted over an hour and during that time he bit me multiple times, leaving large welts and bruises on my arms, punched me in the face, kicked and pulled my hair which in turn he realized he was able to bang my head onto the floor and then upstairs in the kitchen. The only thing that stopped him was when I told him that he left the back gate open and his dog had probably run away. Amazing that that dog probably saved me from losing my mind and literally kept me from beating him.</p><p></p><p>He loves his sister. He kisses her and always wants to hold her. I am scared that he will try to hurt her eventually when he gets like this, because nothing can stop him when he gets like that.</p><p></p><p>He's a great kid. Very affectionate and smart. It's hard to believe when you hear these stories, but he really is and I love him so much. That's why it hurts so badly when he acts this way. I just want to find out what to do to help him. </p><p></p><p>Thank you so much again for listening. I feel so much better knowing that we are not the only parents going through this. Even though it feels like it most of the time... thank you again!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="caregiverkc, post: 437719, member: 12187"] Thank you for replying to me. You don't understand how great it feels to finally be able to talk about my son and all of the problems with other parents that understand what we are going through. To answer your questions, all of the things that have happened in the last 2 years nothing traumatic has occurred. Of course, the everyday things and things that we can't control have happened, but for the most part everything started out of the blue with him.. After the Karate incident my husband and I researched different psychologists and psychiatrists that are specialized in kids, and my own doctor recommended his current psychiatrist, who is wonderful. The only problem is that when something happens, like now, he of course is on vacation. We spent the first appointment with him going over family history, talking to our son privately and also with us and filling out "tests". I'm not sure if that is what a neuropsychological evaluation is, but that's what we have done. He goes every 3 months back to the doctor for check ups and more often if needed. The most upsetting thing about the incident with the police is that when they came into the bathroom, they asked what was going on and I told them it was just a temper tantrum. The one that took me away asked if it was mine or his..... I don't understand to this day how I was able to control myself when he asked me that and not just go off and ask him how he would even ask me that. Since that day things have ups and downs and right now we are going through the "down" part. Of course he is older now and we try to "reason" with him as much as you can, but that doesn't always work. Just last week he got mad because we had to take his sister to the doctor and I wasn't able to get a hold of his old babysitter to see if she could watch him. From there it just escalated throughout the day. He tried to run away telling me he didn't care about me and I am a "bad mommy". That only caused us to get into a wrestling match from me trying to keep him from running away. He's strong and it's scary to think about what he did and what could have happened. This lasted over an hour and during that time he bit me multiple times, leaving large welts and bruises on my arms, punched me in the face, kicked and pulled my hair which in turn he realized he was able to bang my head onto the floor and then upstairs in the kitchen. The only thing that stopped him was when I told him that he left the back gate open and his dog had probably run away. Amazing that that dog probably saved me from losing my mind and literally kept me from beating him. He loves his sister. He kisses her and always wants to hold her. I am scared that he will try to hurt her eventually when he gets like this, because nothing can stop him when he gets like that. He's a great kid. Very affectionate and smart. It's hard to believe when you hear these stories, but he really is and I love him so much. That's why it hurts so badly when he acts this way. I just want to find out what to do to help him. Thank you so much again for listening. I feel so much better knowing that we are not the only parents going through this. Even though it feels like it most of the time... thank you again! [/QUOTE]
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