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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 438050" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Hi there and welcome! </p><p></p><p>Well, I had to chuckle - "Is this you having a temper tantrum or him?" -......"Well officer it just depends.....are you going to allow me to finish parenting my special needs child and get through this difficulty or are you going to stick your abnormally large and unknowing nose into my business and make this situation worse?" (shut your MOUTH Star you only complicate things) Yeaaaaaaaaah. (exhales) I dunno - I've thrown temper tantrums, but usually as a 'here is what one looks like' OH and there was that one time in Kmart - I could NOT get across to my son "dude" that you need to PUT the toy back that we can't afford today - he threw it, I laid on the floor and kicked and screamed, flailed my arms - and tossed about for like three minutes screaming what a horrible Mother I was because I couldn't buy him a toy - to which he came up, gritted his teeth and said "Get up Mom you are 'barrasing me." To which I explained "The toy goes back on the shelf-when I say it does - PERIOD. I can throw a tantrum too- and I'm bigger, and louder and can draw a crowd - WAY quicker - so the next time I ask in public for you to DO something - I would do it. Understand me? and all I got was a head nod - and the toy was put back "ZACTLY" where it was gotten from." from that day on - all I ever had to say in public was K....mart and well - the rest was pretty much gotten in line. </p><p></p><p>It's true - Our kids can really do a number on us, their siblings, their teachers - the neighborhoods - it's emotionally, physically and mentally draining. For now? I'll start by saying GET a therapist, (therapist) for you and for him. If you can get the entire family envolved? That's fantastic. You're all going to need to know how to live with this young man that will absolutely NOT adjust to being parented, taught or live like any other child. He is UNIQUE to the world he was born into. He doesn't understand why he does the things he does - and neither will you. So stop trying to figure it out - and get to someone that can help you communicate effectively. He may also need as I think a lot of the ladies have suggested - a psychiatrist - someone to examine him from top to bottom and see if some kind of medication will help him NOT cure him - but help him. </p><p></p><p>You've found a great source of help, support - education not only for yourself - because now you are in a place where you are going to have to EDUCATE those around you and make them UNDERSTAND that just because they can't SEE a disability in your son - doesn't mean he does not HAVE a disability. That includes teachers as well, and when it comes to his education? You can find a wealth of information here as to what extra benefits your son qualifies for - so he CAN get an education without hindrances and get help. </p><p></p><p>Welcome to the board! </p><p></p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 438050, member: 4964"] Hi there and welcome! Well, I had to chuckle - "Is this you having a temper tantrum or him?" -......"Well officer it just depends.....are you going to allow me to finish parenting my special needs child and get through this difficulty or are you going to stick your abnormally large and unknowing nose into my business and make this situation worse?" (shut your MOUTH Star you only complicate things) Yeaaaaaaaaah. (exhales) I dunno - I've thrown temper tantrums, but usually as a 'here is what one looks like' OH and there was that one time in Kmart - I could NOT get across to my son "dude" that you need to PUT the toy back that we can't afford today - he threw it, I laid on the floor and kicked and screamed, flailed my arms - and tossed about for like three minutes screaming what a horrible Mother I was because I couldn't buy him a toy - to which he came up, gritted his teeth and said "Get up Mom you are 'barrasing me." To which I explained "The toy goes back on the shelf-when I say it does - PERIOD. I can throw a tantrum too- and I'm bigger, and louder and can draw a crowd - WAY quicker - so the next time I ask in public for you to DO something - I would do it. Understand me? and all I got was a head nod - and the toy was put back "ZACTLY" where it was gotten from." from that day on - all I ever had to say in public was K....mart and well - the rest was pretty much gotten in line. It's true - Our kids can really do a number on us, their siblings, their teachers - the neighborhoods - it's emotionally, physically and mentally draining. For now? I'll start by saying GET a therapist, (therapist) for you and for him. If you can get the entire family envolved? That's fantastic. You're all going to need to know how to live with this young man that will absolutely NOT adjust to being parented, taught or live like any other child. He is UNIQUE to the world he was born into. He doesn't understand why he does the things he does - and neither will you. So stop trying to figure it out - and get to someone that can help you communicate effectively. He may also need as I think a lot of the ladies have suggested - a psychiatrist - someone to examine him from top to bottom and see if some kind of medication will help him NOT cure him - but help him. You've found a great source of help, support - education not only for yourself - because now you are in a place where you are going to have to EDUCATE those around you and make them UNDERSTAND that just because they can't SEE a disability in your son - doesn't mean he does not HAVE a disability. That includes teachers as well, and when it comes to his education? You can find a wealth of information here as to what extra benefits your son qualifies for - so he CAN get an education without hindrances and get help. Welcome to the board! Star [/QUOTE]
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