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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 532967" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Buddy's reply is really good. What works and what not, really depends from the kid. My difficult child is borderline in many ways. He was always too high functioning to get any diagnosis. He is not your typical kid and he has lot of difficulties, but he is very good at compensating. And his troubles are not that severe. Which of course doesn't mean they are not contributing his issues with gambling, which could end up being an life destroying addiction (he is doing well now, but it is an addiction there relapses are common and suicide risk can be high.) But he has a capacity to understand delayed gratification and work towards bigger rewards and he has always had some capacity to that. Not as good as my easy child's but some of it. And that has certainly helped with reward systems. </p><p></p><p>Of course as I said, you can teach a chicken with these principles, you just have to be very good at timing your rewards. With kids it is more difficult because using clicker and food just... well... And if the kid really wants to irritate, rewarding or consequences are of course not working, because they just make it sure that kid does know, how to irritate the best. Anyhow the beauty of the reward system, and why I do think it is worth several tries, is that it takes away some power struggle. And those power struggles seldom end well. It also takes away some negativity. It doesn't usually make miracles happen, but it can be very useful especially with certain specific behaviours. And when it works, it is really cool thing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 532967, member: 14557"] Buddy's reply is really good. What works and what not, really depends from the kid. My difficult child is borderline in many ways. He was always too high functioning to get any diagnosis. He is not your typical kid and he has lot of difficulties, but he is very good at compensating. And his troubles are not that severe. Which of course doesn't mean they are not contributing his issues with gambling, which could end up being an life destroying addiction (he is doing well now, but it is an addiction there relapses are common and suicide risk can be high.) But he has a capacity to understand delayed gratification and work towards bigger rewards and he has always had some capacity to that. Not as good as my easy child's but some of it. And that has certainly helped with reward systems. Of course as I said, you can teach a chicken with these principles, you just have to be very good at timing your rewards. With kids it is more difficult because using clicker and food just... well... And if the kid really wants to irritate, rewarding or consequences are of course not working, because they just make it sure that kid does know, how to irritate the best. Anyhow the beauty of the reward system, and why I do think it is worth several tries, is that it takes away some power struggle. And those power struggles seldom end well. It also takes away some negativity. It doesn't usually make miracles happen, but it can be very useful especially with certain specific behaviours. And when it works, it is really cool thing. [/QUOTE]
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