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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 354805" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Welcome - WOW, you do have your hands full - how many 6 year olds would even think of the possibility of forging notes let alone do it? Midwest mom is correct - do not allow him to be alone with the little kids - ever. And even when you are nearby, watch him like a hawk. It is amazing how much harm can be done under your nose. He can torture your little ones right before your eyes and unless you are watching for it, it would be very hard to see. What looks like normal sibling rivarly could be much more dangerous in this situation. Watch the little ones for signs of fear and/or constant avoidance toward him.</p><p> </p><p>I hope your insurance approves quickly. I don't have any advise on discipline since not much mattered to my kids either. They had nothing that could be taken away. My only advise is to remain calm and collect as much as possible. Do not show the fear you may be feeling for him. Work on detachment skills which means never take anything he does personally. Whatever he does is not a indicaton of your parenting skills. You can do everything right and it would still not change his behaviors. I hope the medications that are being planned will help.</p><p> </p><p>The books mentioned should have lots of helpful information and give you strength to continue. Another book to add to your list, "The Manipulative Child". I loved it and wished I had read it when my Diva was 5 or 6. Although I read it about two to three years ago when both kids where older than what I saw the target age being, it did strengthen my resolve to be the parent I wanted to be. It helped me to recognize manipulation in the form my children were using as well as how that grew from me wanting to allow my children choices to where they always expected things their way (their choice). I always encouraged them to figure out a way to make certain things work and they turned it around to try to demand/manipulate everything they wanted. I did use the strategy it teaches on my Diva even when she was 17 years old and found it successful (at least I was at peace going through the difficult situations).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 354805, member: 5096"] Welcome - WOW, you do have your hands full - how many 6 year olds would even think of the possibility of forging notes let alone do it? Midwest mom is correct - do not allow him to be alone with the little kids - ever. And even when you are nearby, watch him like a hawk. It is amazing how much harm can be done under your nose. He can torture your little ones right before your eyes and unless you are watching for it, it would be very hard to see. What looks like normal sibling rivarly could be much more dangerous in this situation. Watch the little ones for signs of fear and/or constant avoidance toward him. I hope your insurance approves quickly. I don't have any advise on discipline since not much mattered to my kids either. They had nothing that could be taken away. My only advise is to remain calm and collect as much as possible. Do not show the fear you may be feeling for him. Work on detachment skills which means never take anything he does personally. Whatever he does is not a indicaton of your parenting skills. You can do everything right and it would still not change his behaviors. I hope the medications that are being planned will help. The books mentioned should have lots of helpful information and give you strength to continue. Another book to add to your list, "The Manipulative Child". I loved it and wished I had read it when my Diva was 5 or 6. Although I read it about two to three years ago when both kids where older than what I saw the target age being, it did strengthen my resolve to be the parent I wanted to be. It helped me to recognize manipulation in the form my children were using as well as how that grew from me wanting to allow my children choices to where they always expected things their way (their choice). I always encouraged them to figure out a way to make certain things work and they turned it around to try to demand/manipulate everything they wanted. I did use the strategy it teaches on my Diva even when she was 17 years old and found it successful (at least I was at peace going through the difficult situations). [/QUOTE]
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