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<blockquote data-quote="Allan-Matlem" data-source="post: 355019" data-attributes="member: 10"><p>Welcome,</p><p></p><p>I am sorry about your difficult situation. in my humble opinion the way to go is try to connect with him , so he can learn to trust you and see you as a help to solve problems, work with him instead of trying to 'do' things to him and manipulate his behavior. It means removing communication and language which expresses blame , punishment or even praise - that can well easily be taken as stroking him because he is jumping through your hoops. When we spend some one on one time , it could be also with a mentor , older brother, buddy-tutor , maybe check with your church or any other charitable organization that can find people to spend time with your son , - the one on one dynamic allows connection and more important allows the kid to interact with you without trying to resist , just thinking , being reflective and perspective taking .</p><p>check <a href="http://thinkkids.org" target="_blank">http://thinkkids.org</a> and <a href="http://livesinthebalance.org" target="_blank">http://livesinthebalance.org</a> especially the vide clips </p><p>Education is a long process , no magic bullet , nurture yourself </p><p>Allan</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Allan-Matlem, post: 355019, member: 10"] Welcome, I am sorry about your difficult situation. in my humble opinion the way to go is try to connect with him , so he can learn to trust you and see you as a help to solve problems, work with him instead of trying to 'do' things to him and manipulate his behavior. It means removing communication and language which expresses blame , punishment or even praise - that can well easily be taken as stroking him because he is jumping through your hoops. When we spend some one on one time , it could be also with a mentor , older brother, buddy-tutor , maybe check with your church or any other charitable organization that can find people to spend time with your son , - the one on one dynamic allows connection and more important allows the kid to interact with you without trying to resist , just thinking , being reflective and perspective taking . check [url]http://thinkkids.org[/url] and [url]http://livesinthebalance.org[/url] especially the vide clips Education is a long process , no magic bullet , nurture yourself Allan [/QUOTE]
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