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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 246568" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there. You sound really stressed and I understand why. I had a difficult teenager myself. I have a few questions because nothing sounds clear-cut to me.</p><p></p><p>1/Did you ever follow up with therapy specific to sexual abuse? Kids don't normally lie about that and being sexually abused can and usually does ruin a child's life if it isn't addressed head-on. My daughter was assaulted at age 8 at a friend's house, but nobody saw it and she never said a word to me about it until she was fourteen and it all spilled out. I know that much of her troubles stemmed from the assault and all the feelings it elecited of worthlessness, helplessness and the depraved feeling that she deserved it and even asked for it. This is how kids think when that happened (and often adults as well). I would want her to see a counselor specific to sexual assault to help her with those issues. Maybe that's why she is so into porn and older men--she feels she is useless because she was violated. My daughter didn't do this, but is common when kids suffer abuse.</p><p></p><p>2/Who has diagnosed her so far? Has she ever seen a NeruoPsych? If she hasn't, I would take her to see one.</p><p></p><p>3/Is there a possibility that she is also abusing alcohol or illicit drugs? My daughter did (another big symptom of both mental illness and/or sexual assault). She could, say, have bipolar AND have been abused AND be using drugs to dull the pain. My daughter also cut herself and her behavior became very erratic and puzzling and we were too clueless to realize she was using drugs. </p><p></p><p>If your daughter is dangerous to you, sick or not, you need to make sure everyone is safe and may have to consider a good Residential Treatment Center (RTC)/out-of-home placement, but you can try other things first. I definitely would get a neuropsychologist AND get her a surprise drug test. They sell them in drug stores, but they don't cover ALL drugs. </p><p></p><p>Welcome to the board.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 246568, member: 1550"] Hi there. You sound really stressed and I understand why. I had a difficult teenager myself. I have a few questions because nothing sounds clear-cut to me. 1/Did you ever follow up with therapy specific to sexual abuse? Kids don't normally lie about that and being sexually abused can and usually does ruin a child's life if it isn't addressed head-on. My daughter was assaulted at age 8 at a friend's house, but nobody saw it and she never said a word to me about it until she was fourteen and it all spilled out. I know that much of her troubles stemmed from the assault and all the feelings it elecited of worthlessness, helplessness and the depraved feeling that she deserved it and even asked for it. This is how kids think when that happened (and often adults as well). I would want her to see a counselor specific to sexual assault to help her with those issues. Maybe that's why she is so into porn and older men--she feels she is useless because she was violated. My daughter didn't do this, but is common when kids suffer abuse. 2/Who has diagnosed her so far? Has she ever seen a NeruoPsych? If she hasn't, I would take her to see one. 3/Is there a possibility that she is also abusing alcohol or illicit drugs? My daughter did (another big symptom of both mental illness and/or sexual assault). She could, say, have bipolar AND have been abused AND be using drugs to dull the pain. My daughter also cut herself and her behavior became very erratic and puzzling and we were too clueless to realize she was using drugs. If your daughter is dangerous to you, sick or not, you need to make sure everyone is safe and may have to consider a good Residential Treatment Center (RTC)/out-of-home placement, but you can try other things first. I definitely would get a neuropsychologist AND get her a surprise drug test. They sell them in drug stores, but they don't cover ALL drugs. Welcome to the board. [/QUOTE]
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