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<blockquote data-quote="bran155" data-source="post: 246597"><p>Hello and welcome. I am so sorry you are going through all of this. I can relate to most of it. My daughter is very similar to yours. I have been through it all!! </p><p></p><p>My suggestion would be to file a PINS petition with your local probation department. It is "Parents In Need Of Support". It is like being on probation. In my state that is one of the ways into a long term Residential Treatment Center (RTC). If she violates the rules enough they will look into placing her. </p><p></p><p>I have learned over the years how to manipulate the hospitals to get my daughter an inpatient stay. Yes it is true most of the time the child needs to be suicidal or homicidal, however if you present your case in a way that you are scared for your safety as well as hers you could get her in. I have flat out lied at times to get my daughter in. She IS a danger to herself in that she makes very bad decisions and puts herself at great risk. Not necessarily suicidal but you are afraid she will end up dead due to her impulsive nature. She has been violent towards you and you are not safe at home with her. There are a number of things you could say. You have to be persistent and do not let them bully you. It's not easy, I know.</p><p></p><p>Does she have an IEP? I started getting services for my daughter through the SD. Her first placement (Residential Treatment Center (RTC)) was through them. She started out in mainstream classes from there went into Special Education and then into Boces. She could not control herself so I fought like hell to get her placed into an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). The SD was reluctant as they did not want to pay for it but I became a thorn in their side and finally they relented. But when a child goes into an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) through the SD it is on a voluntary basis. My daughter went awol 13 times in 3 months. The SD cannot force a child to stay. My daughter got arrested during one of the awols, for shoplifting. That was the best thing that could have ever happened as it got me in front of a judge at which point I begged him to remand her as I was afraid for her life. He did, from there she was placed throught the Family Court which was not on a voluntary basis, she was court mandated to stay. It is not easy, believe me. It takes a lot of leg work on your part. </p><p></p><p>I hope this helps. Hang in there and welcome to the CD family. You will love this place. The people here a wonderful. I have gotten so much strength from the Warrior Parents here. Finding this site was the best thing that I have ever done for myself. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="bran155, post: 246597"] Hello and welcome. I am so sorry you are going through all of this. I can relate to most of it. My daughter is very similar to yours. I have been through it all!! My suggestion would be to file a PINS petition with your local probation department. It is "Parents In Need Of Support". It is like being on probation. In my state that is one of the ways into a long term Residential Treatment Center (RTC). If she violates the rules enough they will look into placing her. I have learned over the years how to manipulate the hospitals to get my daughter an inpatient stay. Yes it is true most of the time the child needs to be suicidal or homicidal, however if you present your case in a way that you are scared for your safety as well as hers you could get her in. I have flat out lied at times to get my daughter in. She IS a danger to herself in that she makes very bad decisions and puts herself at great risk. Not necessarily suicidal but you are afraid she will end up dead due to her impulsive nature. She has been violent towards you and you are not safe at home with her. There are a number of things you could say. You have to be persistent and do not let them bully you. It's not easy, I know. Does she have an IEP? I started getting services for my daughter through the SD. Her first placement (Residential Treatment Center (RTC)) was through them. She started out in mainstream classes from there went into Special Education and then into Boces. She could not control herself so I fought like hell to get her placed into an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). The SD was reluctant as they did not want to pay for it but I became a thorn in their side and finally they relented. But when a child goes into an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) through the SD it is on a voluntary basis. My daughter went awol 13 times in 3 months. The SD cannot force a child to stay. My daughter got arrested during one of the awols, for shoplifting. That was the best thing that could have ever happened as it got me in front of a judge at which point I begged him to remand her as I was afraid for her life. He did, from there she was placed throught the Family Court which was not on a voluntary basis, she was court mandated to stay. It is not easy, believe me. It takes a lot of leg work on your part. I hope this helps. Hang in there and welcome to the CD family. You will love this place. The people here a wonderful. I have gotten so much strength from the Warrior Parents here. Finding this site was the best thing that I have ever done for myself. :) [/QUOTE]
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