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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 324626" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I'm with MWM on the possibility of autism. It is a spectrum disorder which means that every kid is different and you won't necessrily get all the classic features. For example my younger son never had the toe walking or hand flapping, and has always made good eye contact especially with people he knows well. But there were other subtleties which, especially as he got older, became more apparent.</p><p></p><p>You are responding to your own gut instincts, which are very reliable as a rule. Don't lose faith in yourself. </p><p></p><p>What to do - first, try to organise a private neuropsychologist assessment. Not cheap but worth it. The Dept of Ed or the school will have something similar but from experience it often falls far short of really identifying the real problems underneath. Also to do (which I think you have done) - speech pathology assessment. With the toe walking, an Occupational Therapist (OT) assessment or physiotherapy assessment may be woth considering. Keep copies of all reports because they record a snapshot of your child's development in that area at this point in his life. Even if the problem settles completely, you need a record of how things were, so that an accurate diagnosis can be made at a later stage.</p><p></p><p>High-functioning autism is not necessarily bad news. It does mean that you would need to change the way you handle him, you would need to adapt to the way his brain learns best in order to raise him. What works with "normal" kids often backfires badly with these kids. But there are other ways that work brilliantly with these kids.</p><p></p><p>Have a look at <a href="http://www.childbrain.com" target="_blank">www.childbrain.com</a>, read around a bit then look for their Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) questionnaire. DO the test (it's not officially diagnostic but it will help you think about the possibility) then whatever the result, print it and take it to the child's doctor. Keep a copy.</p><p></p><p>Keep a diary, write down your observations of your child. There are a lot of other things you can do, whatever the problem may be, to maximise the outcome.</p><p></p><p>My youngest autistic son is almost 16 now, and doing amazingly. He "failed" his first IQ test (because of his language delay) but is now working his way through mainstream education and doing especially well in his best subjects - he scored 99% for his recent Computing Studies exam. Socially he's also making wonderful progress, but he does need different handling, the usual "because I said so, that's why" kind of parenting is disastrous and WILL produce the ODD signs you are seeing now.</p><p></p><p>You can turn that around. Get hold of "The Exposive Child" by Ross Greene and read it. Also read the sticky on the top of this page.</p><p></p><p>It will help.</p><p></p><p>Let us know how you get on.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p><p></p><p>Meanwhile there are things you can put in place</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 324626, member: 1991"] I'm with MWM on the possibility of autism. It is a spectrum disorder which means that every kid is different and you won't necessrily get all the classic features. For example my younger son never had the toe walking or hand flapping, and has always made good eye contact especially with people he knows well. But there were other subtleties which, especially as he got older, became more apparent. You are responding to your own gut instincts, which are very reliable as a rule. Don't lose faith in yourself. What to do - first, try to organise a private neuropsychologist assessment. Not cheap but worth it. The Dept of Ed or the school will have something similar but from experience it often falls far short of really identifying the real problems underneath. Also to do (which I think you have done) - speech pathology assessment. With the toe walking, an Occupational Therapist (OT) assessment or physiotherapy assessment may be woth considering. Keep copies of all reports because they record a snapshot of your child's development in that area at this point in his life. Even if the problem settles completely, you need a record of how things were, so that an accurate diagnosis can be made at a later stage. High-functioning autism is not necessarily bad news. It does mean that you would need to change the way you handle him, you would need to adapt to the way his brain learns best in order to raise him. What works with "normal" kids often backfires badly with these kids. But there are other ways that work brilliantly with these kids. Have a look at [url]www.childbrain.com[/url], read around a bit then look for their Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) questionnaire. DO the test (it's not officially diagnostic but it will help you think about the possibility) then whatever the result, print it and take it to the child's doctor. Keep a copy. Keep a diary, write down your observations of your child. There are a lot of other things you can do, whatever the problem may be, to maximise the outcome. My youngest autistic son is almost 16 now, and doing amazingly. He "failed" his first IQ test (because of his language delay) but is now working his way through mainstream education and doing especially well in his best subjects - he scored 99% for his recent Computing Studies exam. Socially he's also making wonderful progress, but he does need different handling, the usual "because I said so, that's why" kind of parenting is disastrous and WILL produce the ODD signs you are seeing now. You can turn that around. Get hold of "The Exposive Child" by Ross Greene and read it. Also read the sticky on the top of this page. It will help. Let us know how you get on. Marg Meanwhile there are things you can put in place [/QUOTE]
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