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<blockquote data-quote="Jena" data-source="post: 405278" data-attributes="member: 4514"><p>hi and welcome there are alot of great ppl here you will come to find and its' a great place to get advice or just someplace safe to vent.</p><p> </p><p>first congratulations to you it isnt' easy to leave an abusive marriage i did it ten years ago and it wasnt' easy at all, yet i too saw the results immediately as you stated with everyone doing so much better and so much calmer once that environment has been left behind.</p><p> </p><p>what i learned in my journey back than was that initially we all did real well, kids especially yet as time progressed i saw the affects of them living in the home with the abuse going on, it was like the "kid" delayed response i've come to see thru the years with-my kids. My difficult child (gift from god) we refer to our kids as here well was super young under 2 so she was for the most part not privy to alot of what went on, yet my oldest was she was 7 at the time i believe.</p><p> </p><p>so, as i said things just as your explaining began to happen. i learned after alot of therapy with my oldest when she was little that she was doing what she'd learned, that whole learned behavior thing also acting acting out in a way. happy that the stress in our home my ex h was gone, yet as i was sort of mourning the loss of the life that i thought i'd have she too was mourning that loss in a kid way.</p><p> </p><p>i'm not sure if that's what's going on with your little one. it's natural i think and totally normal response to it all and actually healthy. if she wasn't displaying something i'd say hmm what's up with that? LOL</p><p> </p><p>i'd say since youve been so proactive with the rest of her care and supports which is awesome maybe delving into family therapy if you aren't already or just some type of play or art therapy for her would be a good idea so that someone else a person that isnt' emeshed with her as a mom is and always is as i know all too well can explore some of what she's feeling with-her.</p><p> </p><p>anyway, just some thoughts because i walked a similar path. i dont' know if that's it only you know your child best. i wish you luck either way. welcome again to the group. it truly is a great place and has helped me thru alot and taught me alot</p><p> </p><p>((hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jena, post: 405278, member: 4514"] hi and welcome there are alot of great ppl here you will come to find and its' a great place to get advice or just someplace safe to vent. first congratulations to you it isnt' easy to leave an abusive marriage i did it ten years ago and it wasnt' easy at all, yet i too saw the results immediately as you stated with everyone doing so much better and so much calmer once that environment has been left behind. what i learned in my journey back than was that initially we all did real well, kids especially yet as time progressed i saw the affects of them living in the home with the abuse going on, it was like the "kid" delayed response i've come to see thru the years with-my kids. My difficult child (gift from god) we refer to our kids as here well was super young under 2 so she was for the most part not privy to alot of what went on, yet my oldest was she was 7 at the time i believe. so, as i said things just as your explaining began to happen. i learned after alot of therapy with my oldest when she was little that she was doing what she'd learned, that whole learned behavior thing also acting acting out in a way. happy that the stress in our home my ex h was gone, yet as i was sort of mourning the loss of the life that i thought i'd have she too was mourning that loss in a kid way. i'm not sure if that's what's going on with your little one. it's natural i think and totally normal response to it all and actually healthy. if she wasn't displaying something i'd say hmm what's up with that? LOL i'd say since youve been so proactive with the rest of her care and supports which is awesome maybe delving into family therapy if you aren't already or just some type of play or art therapy for her would be a good idea so that someone else a person that isnt' emeshed with her as a mom is and always is as i know all too well can explore some of what she's feeling with-her. anyway, just some thoughts because i walked a similar path. i dont' know if that's it only you know your child best. i wish you luck either way. welcome again to the group. it truly is a great place and has helped me thru alot and taught me alot ((hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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