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Newbie - how do I get an adult difficult child diagnosed?
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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 121667" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>Welcome to our little corner of the world. Without his cooperation, there is really nothing you can do.</p><p></p><p>If he is serious about getting a diagnosis and help (can't get help without the diagnosis), make him get the diagnosis and make a plan before he comes home. If this means your putting him in a pay by the week hotel or cheap apartment for a month or so rather than bringing him into your home, then that should be what you do. He needs to understand that you appreciate that he is unhappy with where his life is at right now and that he wants to change his life. </p><p></p><p>Let him know that you believe in his sincerity, and recognize the struggle that he is in for. Then tell him firmly that you have done your bit as far as him coming home to live in an unbalanced state. He can join you later when he has acted on his new-found desire to make his life better.</p><p></p><p>Does he have a job and insurance? Tell him to contact HR or his insurance carrier and ask for a referral. Is he without resources? Tear out the Bluepages portion of the phone book with mental health referrals and tell him to make some calls and let you know what you can do to help. Like a co-pay. Most religious organizations also offer screening and help at low or no charge. You don't have to be a Catholic (or Jew, or Lutheran, etc.) to go to Catholic (Jewish, Lutheran, etc.) Family Services.</p><p></p><p>If he really wants help, he will take the next step. If he actually wants to crash on your couch and take advantage of you, he'll tell you off.</p><p></p><p>I wish I had more to offer you, but at that age, and going through a tough patch in his marriage, it's up to him. Maybe he married the wrong girl. Maybe they need to work it out. But I wouldn't jump in and rescue him, or think that getting a diagnosis is going to make him want to change.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 121667, member: 99"] Welcome to our little corner of the world. Without his cooperation, there is really nothing you can do. If he is serious about getting a diagnosis and help (can't get help without the diagnosis), make him get the diagnosis and make a plan before he comes home. If this means your putting him in a pay by the week hotel or cheap apartment for a month or so rather than bringing him into your home, then that should be what you do. He needs to understand that you appreciate that he is unhappy with where his life is at right now and that he wants to change his life. Let him know that you believe in his sincerity, and recognize the struggle that he is in for. Then tell him firmly that you have done your bit as far as him coming home to live in an unbalanced state. He can join you later when he has acted on his new-found desire to make his life better. Does he have a job and insurance? Tell him to contact HR or his insurance carrier and ask for a referral. Is he without resources? Tear out the Bluepages portion of the phone book with mental health referrals and tell him to make some calls and let you know what you can do to help. Like a co-pay. Most religious organizations also offer screening and help at low or no charge. You don't have to be a Catholic (or Jew, or Lutheran, etc.) to go to Catholic (Jewish, Lutheran, etc.) Family Services. If he really wants help, he will take the next step. If he actually wants to crash on your couch and take advantage of you, he'll tell you off. I wish I had more to offer you, but at that age, and going through a tough patch in his marriage, it's up to him. Maybe he married the wrong girl. Maybe they need to work it out. But I wouldn't jump in and rescue him, or think that getting a diagnosis is going to make him want to change. [/QUOTE]
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