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<blockquote data-quote="Christy" data-source="post: 180764" data-attributes="member: 225"><p>Welcome!</p><p></p><p>It is hard to know exactly what is causing your foster sister' s behaviors as I'm sure she has had a difficult life to this point. Is she coming from another foster placement or from her birth family? Just the stess of this transition alone, especially at a difficult age, could be the source of her ODD behaviors. </p><p></p><p>Beth beat me to it by suggesting the Explosive Child, it would be a great help to your family in this situation as well as with other foster placements. </p><p></p><p>Setting aside a time to do things together is also a good idea and may help with the frequent pestering. I'm sure she is craving attention, attention she probably did not receive in her birth family. I found with our former foster daughters (then age 11 and 12) that the more you did for them, the more they wanted you to do for them. They did not have any expectations for their birthmom but were relentless with demands for me. They were always hurt when I said no, even to small things. This got better with time as they learned that I could be counted on consistantly but was not a pushover. </p><p></p><p>I had to laugh when I read your post. My son was also an emergency 2 week placement. 2 1/2 years later, he was still living with us and we adopted him!</p><p></p><p>Good luck to you and your family as you try to help this girl. She is lucky to have landed in a caring home.</p><p></p><p>Christy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Christy, post: 180764, member: 225"] Welcome! It is hard to know exactly what is causing your foster sister' s behaviors as I'm sure she has had a difficult life to this point. Is she coming from another foster placement or from her birth family? Just the stess of this transition alone, especially at a difficult age, could be the source of her ODD behaviors. Beth beat me to it by suggesting the Explosive Child, it would be a great help to your family in this situation as well as with other foster placements. Setting aside a time to do things together is also a good idea and may help with the frequent pestering. I'm sure she is craving attention, attention she probably did not receive in her birth family. I found with our former foster daughters (then age 11 and 12) that the more you did for them, the more they wanted you to do for them. They did not have any expectations for their birthmom but were relentless with demands for me. They were always hurt when I said no, even to small things. This got better with time as they learned that I could be counted on consistantly but was not a pushover. I had to laugh when I read your post. My son was also an emergency 2 week placement. 2 1/2 years later, he was still living with us and we adopted him! Good luck to you and your family as you try to help this girl. She is lucky to have landed in a caring home. Christy [/QUOTE]
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