I don't know all the slang yet so forgive me. I will figure it out promise! I know this is a place for parents but there are not that many places for adult sibs so i figured what the hay maybe this could be a soft place for me to land too! My family is fostering a 12 yr old girl with ODD. She was an emergency placement that was only supposed to last a week or two if that...we are going into week six now (or is it more? I don't know anymore!) At first we didn't think she had ODD just regular preteen angst amped up a ton. In the past few weeks she has started to show us some of her harder to deal with traits. She has all the classic symptoms of ODD without the violence. When doing research about ODD one site said "argues with adults once or twice a week" I started laughing. Once or twice a week?! how about at least once or twice an hour or maybe every 30 minutes? If she isn't arguing with you she is glaring at you. I feel as though every thing I say is wrong and maybe i am being super critical. Is it really wrong for me to say "No i will not drive you to the gas station to get you ice cream but you can go get one of the popsicles we just bought out of the fridge"? or how about "I'm sorry but I really don't want to read to you tonight I am enjoying my book right now, why don't you ask dad to read to you?" Am I a horrible evil person for wanting a little alone time? I do spend time with her and read to her and do crafts and play games just not every waking moment of everyday. My mom and I trade off entertaining her when dad is at work and then he gets to spend time with her when he gets home. She does have some attachment issues but not Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) as far as we (and the social workers) can tell. My family has had to deal with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) in the past and she isn't anywhere close to acting like those kids on the attachment front. I think her issue- and its totally fair that she has this issue- is one of lack of trust and that plays into not truly bonding with adults. OK so enough of the rant. Do you lovely ladies and gents have any advice on how to help me and/or my family deal? Any experience with ODD will be helpful! Thank you!!!!