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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 180906" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>What a sweetheart you are!</p><p> </p><p>I don't deal well with-the negativity. My son was at camp for a mo. We picked him up yesterday. It was great, until about noon today, and he woke up in a monster mood and it went downhill from there. I have learned to walk away.</p><p>You know how you said she needs company all the time? What if you tell her she will be alone for 5 min. while you wash your hair? That would give you 5 min. away from the negativity, and 5 min. for her to deal with-herself. Alone. </p><p>Then, up it to 10 min. Then 15. Get my drift?</p><p>Just because she's in foster care doesn't mean she doesn't get consequences. If the explanation is short and unemotional, she should eventually respond. </p><p>What does she do if you leave her alone right now? Throw a fit? Slam things? If it's just loud complaining, I say, hey, walk around the house outside just to get away from it. Come back in and ignore her pestering questions.</p><p>My son did that today and I realized I had no compelling reason to answer his snotty, snooty questions. So I just ignored him and he eventually shut up.</p><p> </p><p>I don't know if that's what you were looking for, but it's my 2 cents worth.</p><p>Foster kids should not be ignored and just passed from home to home. It's hard work on everyone's parts. </p><p> </p><p>Bravo.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 180906, member: 3419"] What a sweetheart you are! I don't deal well with-the negativity. My son was at camp for a mo. We picked him up yesterday. It was great, until about noon today, and he woke up in a monster mood and it went downhill from there. I have learned to walk away. You know how you said she needs company all the time? What if you tell her she will be alone for 5 min. while you wash your hair? That would give you 5 min. away from the negativity, and 5 min. for her to deal with-herself. Alone. Then, up it to 10 min. Then 15. Get my drift? Just because she's in foster care doesn't mean she doesn't get consequences. If the explanation is short and unemotional, she should eventually respond. What does she do if you leave her alone right now? Throw a fit? Slam things? If it's just loud complaining, I say, hey, walk around the house outside just to get away from it. Come back in and ignore her pestering questions. My son did that today and I realized I had no compelling reason to answer his snotty, snooty questions. So I just ignored him and he eventually shut up. I don't know if that's what you were looking for, but it's my 2 cents worth. Foster kids should not be ignored and just passed from home to home. It's hard work on everyone's parts. Bravo. [/QUOTE]
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