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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 295291" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>Bewildered,</p><p> </p><p>First, welcome to the site. You have found the right place!</p><p> </p><p>I would like to echo many of the points JJJ made. ODD may certainly fit your daughter, but ODD is more usually an umbrella name for a list of behaviors that are signs of or caused by something else. There are no medical interventions for ODD.</p><p> </p><p>I would also recommend reading "The Explosive Child". It's a wonderful insight into our difficult children and contains some strategies for "picking and choosing" the home battles.</p><p> </p><p>As far as her violence toward you - I totally agree with JJJ, you need to disengage immediately. If your daughter is unresponsive to verbal discipline (such as "don't hit me") then you need to stop and walk away. If she follows you, lock the bathroom door. This new response from you may get a new response from her. But ultimately you cannot allow her to use you as a punching bag.</p><p> </p><p>A few suggestions for you. First and foremost is a comprehensive evaluation for your daughter. She needs to see a pediatric psychologist or psychiatrist. One way to start is to explore a local children's hospital or teaching university. Ask for a multidisciplinary evaluation for your daughter. It is testing, usally over the course of a couple days, where your daughter is seen by doctors of differing discipline. Many times it will also include an educational specialist as well (which would be good since there may be some slight learning disabilities which are making her frustrated with the work - this was the case with my son). Once you do that, you will have a clearer picture of what is going on with your daughter. When you know what's going on, you can begin to treat. It may be through medicine, talk therapy, behavior modification or a combo of any or all of those (as in my son's case).</p><p> </p><p>Many of us have children who display traits either at school and never at home (like my son) or at home and never in public (like your daughter). One way to show both your daughter or the medical professional she ultimately sees would be to have a video recorder ready. Next time she "goes off" hit the record button. Keep a behavior diary every day. Note what seems to set her off the worse. Note the time she went to bed, or what she had to eat, or what/how much she did that day. There's a pretty good chance you will find some common threads if you really make an effort.</p><p> </p><p>A couple questions for you. Do you know any health history of her bio family? How does she do in school in regards to academics and socially? </p><p> </p><p>I'm sorry you had to find your way here, but I think you will find that you are not alone.</p><p> </p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 295291, member: 805"] Bewildered, First, welcome to the site. You have found the right place! I would like to echo many of the points JJJ made. ODD may certainly fit your daughter, but ODD is more usually an umbrella name for a list of behaviors that are signs of or caused by something else. There are no medical interventions for ODD. I would also recommend reading "The Explosive Child". It's a wonderful insight into our difficult children and contains some strategies for "picking and choosing" the home battles. As far as her violence toward you - I totally agree with JJJ, you need to disengage immediately. If your daughter is unresponsive to verbal discipline (such as "don't hit me") then you need to stop and walk away. If she follows you, lock the bathroom door. This new response from you may get a new response from her. But ultimately you cannot allow her to use you as a punching bag. A few suggestions for you. First and foremost is a comprehensive evaluation for your daughter. She needs to see a pediatric psychologist or psychiatrist. One way to start is to explore a local children's hospital or teaching university. Ask for a multidisciplinary evaluation for your daughter. It is testing, usally over the course of a couple days, where your daughter is seen by doctors of differing discipline. Many times it will also include an educational specialist as well (which would be good since there may be some slight learning disabilities which are making her frustrated with the work - this was the case with my son). Once you do that, you will have a clearer picture of what is going on with your daughter. When you know what's going on, you can begin to treat. It may be through medicine, talk therapy, behavior modification or a combo of any or all of those (as in my son's case). Many of us have children who display traits either at school and never at home (like my son) or at home and never in public (like your daughter). One way to show both your daughter or the medical professional she ultimately sees would be to have a video recorder ready. Next time she "goes off" hit the record button. Keep a behavior diary every day. Note what seems to set her off the worse. Note the time she went to bed, or what she had to eat, or what/how much she did that day. There's a pretty good chance you will find some common threads if you really make an effort. A couple questions for you. Do you know any health history of her bio family? How does she do in school in regards to academics and socially? I'm sorry you had to find your way here, but I think you will find that you are not alone. Sharon [/QUOTE]
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