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<blockquote data-quote="Bewildered" data-source="post: 295670" data-attributes="member: 7807"><p>Thank you, Susiestar, lots of good advice. Your incident on the landing must have been terrifying! I think the most awful thing about these episodes is that when I look into her eyes, difficult child isn't there. </p><p> </p><p>MWM, what an emotional adoption story! If only these children knew just how much we really love them! I tell her constantly, but I wonder if she really can know how much. </p><p> </p><p>Actually, that poses another question. difficult child rarely will tell us that she loves us. If I'm at work, I call home frequently (she stays with my mother, who lives in an in-law apartment at my home, when I have to work) to tell her I love her and miss her, but she will not reply. When we kiss her goodnight and tell her we love her, again, and pointedly, no reply. I know it's probably just another control issue, but it bothers me. Is this the case with anyone else?</p><p> </p><p> difficult child has been trying very hard to get her chores and schoolwork done without a fuss. I praised her for her good behavior yesterday, and pointed out how quickly everything got done when she didn't waste her time and my time creating a fuss. And, since she was focused on the work instead of on making a scene, she did really well with it. </p><p> </p><p>difficult child had another session with her counselor last night. They talked a lot about her anger and how to recognize when an outburst may be approaching. I got the name of a neuropsychologist last night and will make an appointment. Her counselor said to not expect to see him until October, but he's very good so it is worth the wait. Meanwhile, she will work with difficult child to try to get to whatever triggers there might be.</p><p> </p><p>I have not involved her pediatrician since I first told him about the problem back in April. He was no help...said she was just a strong-willed child and gave me a book on parenting and setting limits. I no longer consider him her pediatrician. difficult child has always been very healthy, she only saw the pediatrician for well-child visits with the exception of one ear infection 3 years ago. I will be getting difficult child in to see a new pediatrician as soon as we can get in for a meet and greet to make sure difficult child is comfortable with her. It was something we talked about just before her last appointment anyway. difficult child said she wanted a lady doctor instead. I want to avoid any drugs if at all possible, so I want the opinions of as many professionals as possible before I take those measures.</p><p> </p><p>Lots of calls to make today. My thoughts and prayers go out to all of you who are loving and parenting under trying circumstances!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Bewildered, post: 295670, member: 7807"] Thank you, Susiestar, lots of good advice. Your incident on the landing must have been terrifying! I think the most awful thing about these episodes is that when I look into her eyes, difficult child isn't there. MWM, what an emotional adoption story! If only these children knew just how much we really love them! I tell her constantly, but I wonder if she really can know how much. Actually, that poses another question. difficult child rarely will tell us that she loves us. If I'm at work, I call home frequently (she stays with my mother, who lives in an in-law apartment at my home, when I have to work) to tell her I love her and miss her, but she will not reply. When we kiss her goodnight and tell her we love her, again, and pointedly, no reply. I know it's probably just another control issue, but it bothers me. Is this the case with anyone else? difficult child has been trying very hard to get her chores and schoolwork done without a fuss. I praised her for her good behavior yesterday, and pointed out how quickly everything got done when she didn't waste her time and my time creating a fuss. And, since she was focused on the work instead of on making a scene, she did really well with it. difficult child had another session with her counselor last night. They talked a lot about her anger and how to recognize when an outburst may be approaching. I got the name of a neuropsychologist last night and will make an appointment. Her counselor said to not expect to see him until October, but he's very good so it is worth the wait. Meanwhile, she will work with difficult child to try to get to whatever triggers there might be. I have not involved her pediatrician since I first told him about the problem back in April. He was no help...said she was just a strong-willed child and gave me a book on parenting and setting limits. I no longer consider him her pediatrician. difficult child has always been very healthy, she only saw the pediatrician for well-child visits with the exception of one ear infection 3 years ago. I will be getting difficult child in to see a new pediatrician as soon as we can get in for a meet and greet to make sure difficult child is comfortable with her. It was something we talked about just before her last appointment anyway. difficult child said she wanted a lady doctor instead. I want to avoid any drugs if at all possible, so I want the opinions of as many professionals as possible before I take those measures. Lots of calls to make today. My thoughts and prayers go out to all of you who are loving and parenting under trying circumstances! [/QUOTE]
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