Normal
What I found helpful was going to a counselor and he pointed me in the right direction as to where to look for help, etc. It took us about 4 years to get our son the proper help he needed. He needed to be placed in a residential program. We could not afford it on our own. Our state program helped us get aid. It was called something like Institutionalized Medicaid. I also found that being frustrated and angry shut down the people I was trying to get "help" from. Being sugary sweet and asking questions (even if I knew the answer) worked. Hugs to you.