Meth, pot, pills, X and the list goes on. He is so all or nothing. He can't just do a little of anything. It is so scary for me, yet he has no fear. Within 4 hours of walking the program he had hooked up with a meth dealer, partied all night at their house, and then crashed there. Leave it to Matt to already know every resource in town - and leave it to Matt to not be cold, hungry, or uncomfortable while walking the streets. He came back to the program the next day and worked for 6 hours to get accepted back in and they did a UA that revealed his drug use. However after he worked, he chose not to want to talk about why he walked in a group meeting, and they suspended him for 3 days, leaving him back on the streets. He called me to tell me what happened and that he didn't know what to do other than go back to live with the dealers. He was crying and said he did not want to, but he didn't know what to do. At that point I said NO. I felt like by the program suspending him was fueling him even further into making bad choices. So he is in a motel right now until I can figure out where to go from here. The program wants him to come back - but I know Matt. Like you said Suz - Rob had to be free - and that is where Matt is. Programs are obsolete at this point, and I know it, and Matt totally knows it. So I am not sure what to do with the kid. He can stay affiliated with the program and live off campus in his own place where he would have to get a job, finish his HS degree, etc. There would be a life coach that would work with him daily - and help him with banking, etc. So, for now, I am going to do that. That still will not prevent him from doing drugs, if that is what he wants - but I guess I need to give him one more shot at choosing a good life. This is my last stab helping Matt. If that does not work, than he is on his own. Thanks for listening. I know many of you have been down this path too, which makes me feel sad for us all, but better than I am not so alone. Surprisingly I am holding up pretty well. Not sure how, but I am. Other than that first night of him being gone - I am calm and rational. Of course, if he goes missing again, I might not be. I think there is one Al-Anon meeting in my town, that meets once a week - so I might try to find that. God knows there should be more, since despite the size of this town, drug use is rampant.