Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
no good deed goes unpunished
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Elsieshaye" data-source="post: 481589" data-attributes="member: 12928"><p>Star, I appreciate your post. And, honestly, for the most part I am going on with my life. Detachment isn't an instant thing, and I'm already in therapy working on it. Just to clarify, I let his call go to voice mail. I've hung up on him in the past when he started speaking disrespectfully and have stopped taking his calls because of the disrespect. I'm not going to be reading or responding to any more of his communications - that was my mistake this time. I'm limiting his opportunities to dump on me as I become aware of them. Doesn't mean I'm not upset and disappointed about the fact that he continues to try, though, and I come here to unload about that. </p><p></p><p>I just sent him an email telling him I loved him and eventually want a relationship with him again, but for now I'm going to close the door to further contact. I told him I'm open to him if he chooses to turn himself around and do things differently, but I won't accept abuse from him. I said I understood that he's angry with me. But, I told him I'm not his emotional punching bag. I let him know that I was going to shut down both his phone and mine at the end of the billing cycle, but that I'd keep my email address and facebook account, so he could contact me if things change for him (he's filtered out of both, so I don't get assaulted by random ranting. I'm going to get a new phone for myself this week and not give the number to him or his aunt. His texts and unanswered calls can go to the other one until it gets shut down. If he does get himself together at some point in the future and can be respectful, I do want a relationship with him, because he's my son. At this point, he'd need to become a completely different person for that to happen, but I'm not going to say "never speak to me again."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsieshaye, post: 481589, member: 12928"] Star, I appreciate your post. And, honestly, for the most part I am going on with my life. Detachment isn't an instant thing, and I'm already in therapy working on it. Just to clarify, I let his call go to voice mail. I've hung up on him in the past when he started speaking disrespectfully and have stopped taking his calls because of the disrespect. I'm not going to be reading or responding to any more of his communications - that was my mistake this time. I'm limiting his opportunities to dump on me as I become aware of them. Doesn't mean I'm not upset and disappointed about the fact that he continues to try, though, and I come here to unload about that. I just sent him an email telling him I loved him and eventually want a relationship with him again, but for now I'm going to close the door to further contact. I told him I'm open to him if he chooses to turn himself around and do things differently, but I won't accept abuse from him. I said I understood that he's angry with me. But, I told him I'm not his emotional punching bag. I let him know that I was going to shut down both his phone and mine at the end of the billing cycle, but that I'd keep my email address and facebook account, so he could contact me if things change for him (he's filtered out of both, so I don't get assaulted by random ranting. I'm going to get a new phone for myself this week and not give the number to him or his aunt. His texts and unanswered calls can go to the other one until it gets shut down. If he does get himself together at some point in the future and can be respectful, I do want a relationship with him, because he's my son. At this point, he'd need to become a completely different person for that to happen, but I'm not going to say "never speak to me again." [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
no good deed goes unpunished
Top