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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 481731"><p>Don't know your entire story...it's a necessary consequence of coming here sporadically. BUT, I read this <em>"I'm feeling kind of battered"</em> and I gather from what I've read in your post that your difficult child is not always totally honest, has a tendency toward entitlement and manipulation. </p><p>Sounds like detachment is a very good move. Awesome that you are in therapy. This is way tooooo hard.</p><p></p><p>Anway.... he's 18. Of legal age. But, kind of young.</p><p> So, perhaps some LIMITED (and I do mean VERY LIMITED) involvement is appropriate. Sending him his stufff sounds good and healthy, but listening him to complain...not so much. Especially since he is a little on the young side, I would work with his father if appropriate to see if he can get treatment for his substance abuse and other possible mental health issues for the time being. But, no way will I entertain any inappropriate comments, etc. IT's hard as the dickens, but as best as possible, let his comments go in one ear and out the other and if it goes on for more than 30 seconds, make an excuse for why you need to get off the phone PRONTO. Love your idea about limiting your access to a difficult child who i making you feel "kind of battered." Life is too short to feel this way...you know this strongly in your heart. Detachment seems to be both for our difficult children and for us as well.</p><p></p><p>Sending goood thoughts.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 481731"] Don't know your entire story...it's a necessary consequence of coming here sporadically. BUT, I read this [I]"I'm feeling kind of battered"[/I] and I gather from what I've read in your post that your difficult child is not always totally honest, has a tendency toward entitlement and manipulation. Sounds like detachment is a very good move. Awesome that you are in therapy. This is way tooooo hard. Anway.... he's 18. Of legal age. But, kind of young. So, perhaps some LIMITED (and I do mean VERY LIMITED) involvement is appropriate. Sending him his stufff sounds good and healthy, but listening him to complain...not so much. Especially since he is a little on the young side, I would work with his father if appropriate to see if he can get treatment for his substance abuse and other possible mental health issues for the time being. But, no way will I entertain any inappropriate comments, etc. IT's hard as the dickens, but as best as possible, let his comments go in one ear and out the other and if it goes on for more than 30 seconds, make an excuse for why you need to get off the phone PRONTO. Love your idea about limiting your access to a difficult child who i making you feel "kind of battered." Life is too short to feel this way...you know this strongly in your heart. Detachment seems to be both for our difficult children and for us as well. Sending goood thoughts. [/QUOTE]
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