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<blockquote data-quote="muttmeister" data-source="post: 451752" data-attributes="member: 135"><p>Well, she's less than 5 years older than I am. Maybe age does have something to do with it, maybe not. We all process our feelings and grieve differently. I don't think there's anything WRONG with either of you. You each had different relationships with those people and you are each handling things in your own way.</p><p></p><p>I know that in some cases, people might think that I am a cold fish. Never in my life have I been one to cry and carry on and share my feelings with other people. That doesn't mean I don't have those feelings. That doesn't mean that I don't grieve when something happens. It just means that I deal with things in my own way. She may be the same. The fact that somebody doesn't make a scene and that they are able to move on doesn't mean they didn't care for that person in the first place or that they are in denial or anything else. </p><p></p><p>With her mother- the woman was 98. I imagine she was reconciled to the fact that she was going to be gone soon. My mother is nearly 97. We are close, but, when she goes, I seriously doubt that I will shed a lot of tears. It is not unexpected that she will be gone soon, she had a good life, she was a religious woman and if there is a better place, no doubt she will be there. With your dad - he was sick for quite awhile. Maybe she processed the grief and loss while he was still alive. Being with somebody every day during a serious illness lets you come to terms with things that you would have to process later in case of an unexpected death. And with your sister - who knows. I'm sure that was a shock to everybody but we all handle those things differently. We don't all cry. That doesn't mean we didn't care.</p><p></p><p>The discussion is good advice, if she is open to it. She may or may not be. You just have to realize that you will process these things your way, and she will do it her way. One way isn't necessarily BETTER than the other; they are just DIFFERENT.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="muttmeister, post: 451752, member: 135"] Well, she's less than 5 years older than I am. Maybe age does have something to do with it, maybe not. We all process our feelings and grieve differently. I don't think there's anything WRONG with either of you. You each had different relationships with those people and you are each handling things in your own way. I know that in some cases, people might think that I am a cold fish. Never in my life have I been one to cry and carry on and share my feelings with other people. That doesn't mean I don't have those feelings. That doesn't mean that I don't grieve when something happens. It just means that I deal with things in my own way. She may be the same. The fact that somebody doesn't make a scene and that they are able to move on doesn't mean they didn't care for that person in the first place or that they are in denial or anything else. With her mother- the woman was 98. I imagine she was reconciled to the fact that she was going to be gone soon. My mother is nearly 97. We are close, but, when she goes, I seriously doubt that I will shed a lot of tears. It is not unexpected that she will be gone soon, she had a good life, she was a religious woman and if there is a better place, no doubt she will be there. With your dad - he was sick for quite awhile. Maybe she processed the grief and loss while he was still alive. Being with somebody every day during a serious illness lets you come to terms with things that you would have to process later in case of an unexpected death. And with your sister - who knows. I'm sure that was a shock to everybody but we all handle those things differently. We don't all cry. That doesn't mean we didn't care. The discussion is good advice, if she is open to it. She may or may not be. You just have to realize that you will process these things your way, and she will do it her way. One way isn't necessarily BETTER than the other; they are just DIFFERENT. [/QUOTE]
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