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Normalizing teen behavior?
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 600098" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>To be honest, if he is going to better direction, I would likely turn a blind eye. There are things going for him right now and he is quite close to 18. Getting hard-nosed now, removing those positive things and peer group and replacing that peer group with other rehab-kids for example, would just take him farther away from the goal you want to get him before he turns 18.</p><p></p><p>Peer group is extremely important during teen years and young adulthood because kids model their expectations for themselves from peers big time. If friends expect to go to college, work etc. so will the kid. If peers expect to be going revolving doors between rehabs, sober houses, working menial jobs, getting kicked out from sober houses, being homeless, shelters, relapsing, going back to rehab etc. that becomes normal to the kid.</p><p></p><p>People work better towards something than to get away from something. Especially kids who are usually very good at adapting and lowering their expectations for themselves and their lifestyle.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 600098, member: 14557"] To be honest, if he is going to better direction, I would likely turn a blind eye. There are things going for him right now and he is quite close to 18. Getting hard-nosed now, removing those positive things and peer group and replacing that peer group with other rehab-kids for example, would just take him farther away from the goal you want to get him before he turns 18. Peer group is extremely important during teen years and young adulthood because kids model their expectations for themselves from peers big time. If friends expect to go to college, work etc. so will the kid. If peers expect to be going revolving doors between rehabs, sober houses, working menial jobs, getting kicked out from sober houses, being homeless, shelters, relapsing, going back to rehab etc. that becomes normal to the kid. People work better towards something than to get away from something. Especially kids who are usually very good at adapting and lowering their expectations for themselves and their lifestyle. [/QUOTE]
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