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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 453182" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Well, at least that makes a LOT more sense than her "putting her foot down" because she is tired of his ****. I am sure she has filed for disability. But you have to have WORKED for a certain number of quarters to get disability. There MUST be a work history in the last so many years or you just do not get it. Period. She is more likely filing for SSDI or whatever it is called that pays MUCH less and is MUCH harder to get.</p><p></p><p>in my opinion it really sounds like M might have some problems. NOT enough for disability, but the way you describe him not learning could mean there are other problems. Most likely a result of long term drug use, in my opinion. He just sounds like a druggie. I wonder if letting her know that the kids would ALL get checks if he DIED if that would influence anything?? Yes, I am sure that is bad and karma may get me for it, but it is what it is. I could actually see them trying to fake his death to get those checks - WHILE he still tried to claim disability. </p><p></p><p>I wonder if it might influence her behavior and pushing him to see doctors if she thought the kids would get more in combined checks if he died than he would get from disability/ssdi/whatever?</p><p></p><p>It isn't surprising at all that they are trying for this. does she have the chiari malformation that you at one time mentioned? MIgraines truly can be debilitating enough to keep you from holding a job. This is RARE today though because there are so very many ways to prevent them and to treat them when they happen. ANd PREVENTION can be as cheap as $3 or $4 a month - and was even BEFORE those $4 medications from Walmart were started. At one time I took atenolol to prevent migraines and paid under $2 for a month's worth. It made me tired the first few weeks and then it didn't. It lowered my blood pressure but that was the goal. I am willing to bet the docs will want to see records of preventatives she has tried and how they have worked and how she has tried imitrex and relpax and even the old ergotamine based medications. I couldn't get disability for migraines even when I had tried 3-4 or more of each TYPE of migraine preventative, AND tried combinations of different classes of preventatives at the same time, plus took medications to treat the ones I got. I made it through college and held jobs working 50+ hour weeks and came home and raised kids and did the housework. </p><p></p><p>Sadly, if she gets crooked docs she might get it. I have even heard of people who were drug addicts with no other health issues except those caused by their drug use getting disability because the drug addiction made them unable to work. never did figure that one out (lived in cincy when I ran across that).</p><p></p><p>Have you actually told her that dropping her child on his head caused the problems, not anything he inherited from his dad? Did she use whatever while pregnant? I would have a hard time NOT telling her that.</p><p></p><p>I will say it is good that she feels bad using Alex's disability $$ to support them. That is a teeny hint of a baby step in the right direction. maybe. Chances are it was started because katie has to account for where alex's money goes.</p><p></p><p>They truly have every desire to not support themselves, don't they? I hope that Kayla at least has some ambition to have a different future. The boys, given the way they were dropped, etc.... may have no other options. </p><p></p><p>i am sorry.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 453182, member: 1233"] Well, at least that makes a LOT more sense than her "putting her foot down" because she is tired of his ****. I am sure she has filed for disability. But you have to have WORKED for a certain number of quarters to get disability. There MUST be a work history in the last so many years or you just do not get it. Period. She is more likely filing for SSDI or whatever it is called that pays MUCH less and is MUCH harder to get. in my opinion it really sounds like M might have some problems. NOT enough for disability, but the way you describe him not learning could mean there are other problems. Most likely a result of long term drug use, in my opinion. He just sounds like a druggie. I wonder if letting her know that the kids would ALL get checks if he DIED if that would influence anything?? Yes, I am sure that is bad and karma may get me for it, but it is what it is. I could actually see them trying to fake his death to get those checks - WHILE he still tried to claim disability. I wonder if it might influence her behavior and pushing him to see doctors if she thought the kids would get more in combined checks if he died than he would get from disability/ssdi/whatever? It isn't surprising at all that they are trying for this. does she have the chiari malformation that you at one time mentioned? MIgraines truly can be debilitating enough to keep you from holding a job. This is RARE today though because there are so very many ways to prevent them and to treat them when they happen. ANd PREVENTION can be as cheap as $3 or $4 a month - and was even BEFORE those $4 medications from Walmart were started. At one time I took atenolol to prevent migraines and paid under $2 for a month's worth. It made me tired the first few weeks and then it didn't. It lowered my blood pressure but that was the goal. I am willing to bet the docs will want to see records of preventatives she has tried and how they have worked and how she has tried imitrex and relpax and even the old ergotamine based medications. I couldn't get disability for migraines even when I had tried 3-4 or more of each TYPE of migraine preventative, AND tried combinations of different classes of preventatives at the same time, plus took medications to treat the ones I got. I made it through college and held jobs working 50+ hour weeks and came home and raised kids and did the housework. Sadly, if she gets crooked docs she might get it. I have even heard of people who were drug addicts with no other health issues except those caused by their drug use getting disability because the drug addiction made them unable to work. never did figure that one out (lived in cincy when I ran across that). Have you actually told her that dropping her child on his head caused the problems, not anything he inherited from his dad? Did she use whatever while pregnant? I would have a hard time NOT telling her that. I will say it is good that she feels bad using Alex's disability $$ to support them. That is a teeny hint of a baby step in the right direction. maybe. Chances are it was started because katie has to account for where alex's money goes. They truly have every desire to not support themselves, don't they? I hope that Kayla at least has some ambition to have a different future. The boys, given the way they were dropped, etc.... may have no other options. i am sorry. [/QUOTE]
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