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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 626721" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>So this morning the phone flashed that Shreveport Louisiana phone number and I answered it. difficult child said he was in court, waiting in a room for his turn, and there was a "free phone" so he used it.</p><p></p><p>I said, Hi, how are you? I was warm with him---no time to "decide" how to be---I was just in the moment. </p><p></p><p>I am glad my natural instincts were warm.</p><p></p><p>The first thing he said was "you didn't take my second call last time." </p><p></p><p>I fumbled and stuttered around, because as I posted here, I had intended to take that call but inadvertently and ironically, I hit the wrong button and it went to vm. I told him that. It was the truth.</p><p></p><p>The next minute, the phone went dead. I guess he wasn't supposed to be on that phone. Surprise! "difficult child doing something he isn't supposed to do"---world breaking news. Lol.</p><p></p><p>Isn't it funny how things happen? I haven't heard back from him again yet, but he should get another "free" call once he is back at the jail. </p><p></p><p>This morning, I also watched the CBS special report on the dedication of the 9/11 Memorial. The President told a story about a 24-year-old young man----my son's age-----who died that day carrying people up and down the stairs of the South Tower and helping people find a way out. He walked one person all the way down on his back, and then went back to get more people. He died. He died helping people.</p><p></p><p>I stood there watching the TV and crying, and then his mother spoke. She said her son died helping people. She said that is the only purpose in life---for people to help other people. </p><p></p><p>That is so true. It is all about love. Her son tragically died too young. She can be comforted knowing he died helping someone.</p><p></p><p>It's easy to say, why can't our difficult children live lives like his? Doing the right thing. Helping people. One of the things I was thinking was comparing this young man to my son. My first thoughts were harsh in comparison. And then sad.</p><p></p><p>This young man is gone and he died doing something really good. My son is still alive and he is in jail. </p><p></p><p>Obviously this is an emotional day for me and I'm just trying to accept that, too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 626721, member: 17542"] So this morning the phone flashed that Shreveport Louisiana phone number and I answered it. difficult child said he was in court, waiting in a room for his turn, and there was a "free phone" so he used it. I said, Hi, how are you? I was warm with him---no time to "decide" how to be---I was just in the moment. I am glad my natural instincts were warm. The first thing he said was "you didn't take my second call last time." I fumbled and stuttered around, because as I posted here, I had intended to take that call but inadvertently and ironically, I hit the wrong button and it went to vm. I told him that. It was the truth. The next minute, the phone went dead. I guess he wasn't supposed to be on that phone. Surprise! "difficult child doing something he isn't supposed to do"---world breaking news. Lol. Isn't it funny how things happen? I haven't heard back from him again yet, but he should get another "free" call once he is back at the jail. This morning, I also watched the CBS special report on the dedication of the 9/11 Memorial. The President told a story about a 24-year-old young man----my son's age-----who died that day carrying people up and down the stairs of the South Tower and helping people find a way out. He walked one person all the way down on his back, and then went back to get more people. He died. He died helping people. I stood there watching the TV and crying, and then his mother spoke. She said her son died helping people. She said that is the only purpose in life---for people to help other people. That is so true. It is all about love. Her son tragically died too young. She can be comforted knowing he died helping someone. It's easy to say, why can't our difficult children live lives like his? Doing the right thing. Helping people. One of the things I was thinking was comparing this young man to my son. My first thoughts were harsh in comparison. And then sad. This young man is gone and he died doing something really good. My son is still alive and he is in jail. Obviously this is an emotional day for me and I'm just trying to accept that, too. [/QUOTE]
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