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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 637177"><p>Oh dear friend; I get it. I am much in the same place with my difficult child(no grandbaby, thank goodness) He is working but he has that similar unmotivated, sloppy lackadaisical attitude. He is treating our house like a place to sleep, rarely interacts with us, gives us no clue as to his whereabouts when he is not here and he doesnt offer to help around the house. And while I shouldn't be surprised ... I had hopes that being back in his clean warm home combined at age 22-1/2 would be a catalyst to finally grow up. It's like he is stuck at age 18- he has nothing to show for the last 4.5 years of his life. All up in smoke, literally.</p><p></p><p>He is still in such a risky place and I worry about throwing him from the frying pan into the fire. I have this fantasy that if I can keep him safe and sound and on a somewhat even keel that it will give him the chance to actually grow up. We hear so much about the brain not maturing until age 24 or so but I am not sure I can last that long.</p><p></p><p>I don't mean to hijack your post- I just want you to know that I get it. I also remember being strongly admonished on this very board 3-1/2 years ago that I had handed my difficult child the power in our relationship by placating him for so long - out of fear of losing him. Old habits die hard, I guess. It's a trade off for knowing he is safe. It's not wearing well.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 637177"] Oh dear friend; I get it. I am much in the same place with my difficult child(no grandbaby, thank goodness) He is working but he has that similar unmotivated, sloppy lackadaisical attitude. He is treating our house like a place to sleep, rarely interacts with us, gives us no clue as to his whereabouts when he is not here and he doesnt offer to help around the house. And while I shouldn't be surprised ... I had hopes that being back in his clean warm home combined at age 22-1/2 would be a catalyst to finally grow up. It's like he is stuck at age 18- he has nothing to show for the last 4.5 years of his life. All up in smoke, literally. He is still in such a risky place and I worry about throwing him from the frying pan into the fire. I have this fantasy that if I can keep him safe and sound and on a somewhat even keel that it will give him the chance to actually grow up. We hear so much about the brain not maturing until age 24 or so but I am not sure I can last that long. I don't mean to hijack your post- I just want you to know that I get it. I also remember being strongly admonished on this very board 3-1/2 years ago that I had handed my difficult child the power in our relationship by placating him for so long - out of fear of losing him. Old habits die hard, I guess. It's a trade off for knowing he is safe. It's not wearing well. [/QUOTE]
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