PatriotsGirl
Well-Known Member
I have to be honest, things are just not that great here. No, I do not think she is back on drugs. I really don't. It is much more worrisome than that because I am now realizing that these annoying traits that she has is HER and not the drugs. Sure she was great for about 6 months and then that lazy, entitled attitude came creeping back...
She is STILL not working. Has NO desire to go to school for anything. No motivation to do a thing with her life. I tried to sit with her to look at college programs and she couldn't be more uninterested. She claims she is applying at places, but I sure never see her doing that. We fight daily. If we don't fight, it is because she is not here. I feel if you are not working and not going to school, you should be doing everything you can to contribute to the household. She contributes to the mess and then leaves. She has a bedroom she won't sleep in because it was such a mess. Instead of cleaning it, she sleeps with Connor on the couch in the living room. husband and I are put our foot down and told her to clean it yesterday. No more sleeping on the couch. She half-a**ed it. I went out to the living room this morning and again she is sleeping on the couch. I woke her up adn sent her upstairs. She is argumentative with everyone in the house but it is not HER, it is us (according to her anyway). Her attitude is awful, she treats everyone in the house like crap and we want her out badly. I do NOT want to live with her anymore. She is better on medications, but won't take them daily. My husband is ready to pack his things and leave.
I, of course, am having a really hard time because of Connor. If it wasn't for him, she would have never moved back here, nevermind still be here. That little boy is my world. She has NO way to care for him if I throw her out. She has no money so she wouldn't even be able to feed him and keep diapers on him. Yet I don't think she will do a dang thing in life if she continues to stay here and I will be supporting them both forever. I really do think she would end up leaving him with us because she knows she can't take care of him and as much as I adore and love my grandson, we don't want to raise another child. We love being grandparents but don't want to be guardians.
So I am stuck. This is a nightmare.
What do you do when precious grands are involved???
She is STILL not working. Has NO desire to go to school for anything. No motivation to do a thing with her life. I tried to sit with her to look at college programs and she couldn't be more uninterested. She claims she is applying at places, but I sure never see her doing that. We fight daily. If we don't fight, it is because she is not here. I feel if you are not working and not going to school, you should be doing everything you can to contribute to the household. She contributes to the mess and then leaves. She has a bedroom she won't sleep in because it was such a mess. Instead of cleaning it, she sleeps with Connor on the couch in the living room. husband and I are put our foot down and told her to clean it yesterday. No more sleeping on the couch. She half-a**ed it. I went out to the living room this morning and again she is sleeping on the couch. I woke her up adn sent her upstairs. She is argumentative with everyone in the house but it is not HER, it is us (according to her anyway). Her attitude is awful, she treats everyone in the house like crap and we want her out badly. I do NOT want to live with her anymore. She is better on medications, but won't take them daily. My husband is ready to pack his things and leave.
I, of course, am having a really hard time because of Connor. If it wasn't for him, she would have never moved back here, nevermind still be here. That little boy is my world. She has NO way to care for him if I throw her out. She has no money so she wouldn't even be able to feed him and keep diapers on him. Yet I don't think she will do a dang thing in life if she continues to stay here and I will be supporting them both forever. I really do think she would end up leaving him with us because she knows she can't take care of him and as much as I adore and love my grandson, we don't want to raise another child. We love being grandparents but don't want to be guardians.
So I am stuck. This is a nightmare.
What do you do when precious grands are involved???