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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 480394" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>If this is Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD), then his ability to control his behaviour is complex. However, focus on the following -</p><p></p><p>Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) kids tend to be rule-followers where possible. They want to fit in, they want to please you, but the wheels fall off when circumstances/other people provoke them. They have minimal control when roused, distressed, angry, afraid. Other kids can be the worst when it comes to provoking them just for the fun of it. School can be a horrible experience.</p><p></p><p>Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) kids need social exposure coupled with careful supervision and roleplay. These kids WILL NOT learn social skills by osmosis the ay other kids do, so shoving these kids into a group of other kids is not the way to teach appropriate social behaviour. However, putting them around other kids with supervision and structure can be very helpful. At school, the playground is generally unstructured and where a lot of problems come from.</p><p></p><p>These kids do not do well with change, especially sudden unexpected change. That can trigger anxiety and meltdown.</p><p></p><p>Now some general rules I recommend - school problems are dealt with by the school. Home should be a refuge from school and unless it is a problem along the lines of homework not being done and therefore time needed at home to do schoolwork to compensate, I would not remove extracurricular stuff, especially potentially beneficial stuff, for problems at school.</p><p></p><p>You wouldn't ask the school to punish your child for insolence to you at home, would you?</p><p></p><p>There is more I could say, but that should be enough for now. There is a lot of hope for a diagnosis of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) or Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD). They can and do improve, especially if you can find what triggers them and reduce exposure to the triggers. Over time these kids can learn to control their own exposure to triggers, especially when they see you working to help them do this.</p><p></p><p>You need to become your child's facilitator, not your child's punisher. It can be done and I found it a much easier way to live. We also saw considerable improvement in the child's behaviour, although we have had to accept that we can never turn him into what other people would consider a 'normal' child. But in some ways he's better than normal anyway.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 480394, member: 1991"] If this is Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD), then his ability to control his behaviour is complex. However, focus on the following - Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) kids tend to be rule-followers where possible. They want to fit in, they want to please you, but the wheels fall off when circumstances/other people provoke them. They have minimal control when roused, distressed, angry, afraid. Other kids can be the worst when it comes to provoking them just for the fun of it. School can be a horrible experience. Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) kids need social exposure coupled with careful supervision and roleplay. These kids WILL NOT learn social skills by osmosis the ay other kids do, so shoving these kids into a group of other kids is not the way to teach appropriate social behaviour. However, putting them around other kids with supervision and structure can be very helpful. At school, the playground is generally unstructured and where a lot of problems come from. These kids do not do well with change, especially sudden unexpected change. That can trigger anxiety and meltdown. Now some general rules I recommend - school problems are dealt with by the school. Home should be a refuge from school and unless it is a problem along the lines of homework not being done and therefore time needed at home to do schoolwork to compensate, I would not remove extracurricular stuff, especially potentially beneficial stuff, for problems at school. You wouldn't ask the school to punish your child for insolence to you at home, would you? There is more I could say, but that should be enough for now. There is a lot of hope for a diagnosis of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) or Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD). They can and do improve, especially if you can find what triggers them and reduce exposure to the triggers. Over time these kids can learn to control their own exposure to triggers, especially when they see you working to help them do this. You need to become your child's facilitator, not your child's punisher. It can be done and I found it a much easier way to live. We also saw considerable improvement in the child's behaviour, although we have had to accept that we can never turn him into what other people would consider a 'normal' child. But in some ways he's better than normal anyway. Marg [/QUOTE]
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