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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 629987" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>I'm sorry, Strength.</p><p></p><p>difficult child son was like that.</p><p></p><p>I never had to work with the parent who took him in, though. She called and was so accusatory and judgmental, over the phone. There was not much I could say, because her son, in my opinion, had been a horrible influence on mine, and the last place I thought he should be was anywhere near their house. But she was determined to save my son from his uncaring, screwed up family, and she said something to that effect right over the phone.</p><p></p><p>I was like..."So this isn't a social call, then?"</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>No, I didn't really say that.</p><p></p><p>We were still in that place where you blame the (new) friends, and wonder what the heck happened to the old friends. Anyway, just before the mom called with how she was taking difficult child in, the police had called us. difficult child, so they told us, was down at the police station, and we needed to come there to get him because he was claiming child abuse and they wanted to talk to us.</p><p></p><p>So, I told the nice policeman (who had dealt with us any number of times, I am sure, with difficult child daughter) that they could have difficult child son.</p><p></p><p>We never did hear anything more from the police.</p><p></p><p>difficult child son did the same kind of thing the last time he was home, as a matter of fact. I suppose they get tired of looking like the bad guy. difficult child had two children, when he last visited us, here. That was three years ago, I think. As he visited family, he told each of them how it was our refusal to help him when he was younger that left him living this kind of marginal existence, now. </p><p></p><p>No one has been specific about what was said, but you know how you just feel it? I don't know how to think about that. </p><p></p><p>difficult child also lived with an uncle at one point, now that I think about it. difficult child was much younger then. We had asked the uncle to try. He grew disgusted pretty quickly. The thing is, we had always seemed to be this family where everything was certain to turn out really well.</p><p> </p><p>I'm glad I had that feeling. Maybe that is how I understand what other parents assume, when what happened to all of us comes out.</p><p></p><p>I used to be that way, too.</p><p></p><p>It's like we always say, here on the site: No one who has not lived this could understand. They just have no frame of reference.</p><p> </p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 629987, member: 17461"] I'm sorry, Strength. difficult child son was like that. I never had to work with the parent who took him in, though. She called and was so accusatory and judgmental, over the phone. There was not much I could say, because her son, in my opinion, had been a horrible influence on mine, and the last place I thought he should be was anywhere near their house. But she was determined to save my son from his uncaring, screwed up family, and she said something to that effect right over the phone. I was like..."So this isn't a social call, then?" :O) No, I didn't really say that. We were still in that place where you blame the (new) friends, and wonder what the heck happened to the old friends. Anyway, just before the mom called with how she was taking difficult child in, the police had called us. difficult child, so they told us, was down at the police station, and we needed to come there to get him because he was claiming child abuse and they wanted to talk to us. So, I told the nice policeman (who had dealt with us any number of times, I am sure, with difficult child daughter) that they could have difficult child son. We never did hear anything more from the police. difficult child son did the same kind of thing the last time he was home, as a matter of fact. I suppose they get tired of looking like the bad guy. difficult child had two children, when he last visited us, here. That was three years ago, I think. As he visited family, he told each of them how it was our refusal to help him when he was younger that left him living this kind of marginal existence, now. No one has been specific about what was said, but you know how you just feel it? I don't know how to think about that. difficult child also lived with an uncle at one point, now that I think about it. difficult child was much younger then. We had asked the uncle to try. He grew disgusted pretty quickly. The thing is, we had always seemed to be this family where everything was certain to turn out really well. I'm glad I had that feeling. Maybe that is how I understand what other parents assume, when what happened to all of us comes out. I used to be that way, too. It's like we always say, here on the site: No one who has not lived this could understand. They just have no frame of reference. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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