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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 301507" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Here's something to share with him...</p><p></p><p>Yes, it's great (for him) that he no longer feels he needs to wear the tag "virgin" around his neck (such a shame it ever became a stigma, in the same way NOT being a virgin was a stigma before 1970).</p><p></p><p>OK, he's had the experience. Maybe he didn't want to miss the chance for "the first time", but form here on he has to realise - his ultimate aim should be a long-term stable relationship, not a series of quickies. And to that end, the girl he needs in his life as his partner, is someone who will RESPECT his choice to go to classes FIRST, and have sex LATER. </p><p></p><p>BEesides, they can always study together afterwards...</p><p></p><p>Any girl who offers sex, but won't keep the offer open while he attends to his other obligations first - she's not worth the trouble. Because if difficult child is any good as a sex object, sufficiently attractive for her to make the offer in the first place, then he will be worth the wait.</p><p></p><p>And now to study skills... word WILL get around, if he learns how to be a considerate and capable lover. It may always improve with practice but it improves MOST by study and consideration. A woman's most erogenous zone, is her mind. There is no "starter switch" and teenage boys seem to be the last to learn this.</p><p></p><p>So if he wants to revel in his new-won status as a sexual creature, then he needs to take some things on board:</p><p></p><p>1) sexual responsibility. This is not just about pregnancy, it's about keeping yourself and your partner protected from disease, illness & parasites and it's also about learning sexual manners, learning the social rules of sexual interaction. It's interconnected.</p><p></p><p>2) The law. Whatever it is in your area, it is extra complex for a bloke. Girls can look a lot older than they are and what is more, a girl wanting to be popular will hang around with older boys and lie about her age. She may be willing, she may be accomplished and experienced, she may even be the aggressor; but if she is under-age and it goes bad, her parents can cry "statutory rape!" and he's got a sex offender's tag for life.</p><p></p><p>3) Learn to show consideration for the girl. If she "leads him on" it is not always a deliberate attempt to humiliate him. A girl who is nervous and hasn't had many sexual encounters before, can get scared and change her mind at the last minute. This can be VERY frustrating for the guy and some blokes will simply say, "Too late!" and go ahead anyway. On the other hand, if he learns to show consideration, it WILL come back in his favour always, later on. Such practice will have ladies queueing for his favours.</p><p></p><p>Remember - it's not always the good-looking guys who get the girls all the time; no, it's the little weedy nerd in the corner, licking his eyebrows...</p><p></p><p>Now, if you can share that with him and keep a straight face, you have qualified for the Graduate Diploma in Paretning a Teen Male!</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 301507, member: 1991"] Here's something to share with him... Yes, it's great (for him) that he no longer feels he needs to wear the tag "virgin" around his neck (such a shame it ever became a stigma, in the same way NOT being a virgin was a stigma before 1970). OK, he's had the experience. Maybe he didn't want to miss the chance for "the first time", but form here on he has to realise - his ultimate aim should be a long-term stable relationship, not a series of quickies. And to that end, the girl he needs in his life as his partner, is someone who will RESPECT his choice to go to classes FIRST, and have sex LATER. BEesides, they can always study together afterwards... Any girl who offers sex, but won't keep the offer open while he attends to his other obligations first - she's not worth the trouble. Because if difficult child is any good as a sex object, sufficiently attractive for her to make the offer in the first place, then he will be worth the wait. And now to study skills... word WILL get around, if he learns how to be a considerate and capable lover. It may always improve with practice but it improves MOST by study and consideration. A woman's most erogenous zone, is her mind. There is no "starter switch" and teenage boys seem to be the last to learn this. So if he wants to revel in his new-won status as a sexual creature, then he needs to take some things on board: 1) sexual responsibility. This is not just about pregnancy, it's about keeping yourself and your partner protected from disease, illness & parasites and it's also about learning sexual manners, learning the social rules of sexual interaction. It's interconnected. 2) The law. Whatever it is in your area, it is extra complex for a bloke. Girls can look a lot older than they are and what is more, a girl wanting to be popular will hang around with older boys and lie about her age. She may be willing, she may be accomplished and experienced, she may even be the aggressor; but if she is under-age and it goes bad, her parents can cry "statutory rape!" and he's got a sex offender's tag for life. 3) Learn to show consideration for the girl. If she "leads him on" it is not always a deliberate attempt to humiliate him. A girl who is nervous and hasn't had many sexual encounters before, can get scared and change her mind at the last minute. This can be VERY frustrating for the guy and some blokes will simply say, "Too late!" and go ahead anyway. On the other hand, if he learns to show consideration, it WILL come back in his favour always, later on. Such practice will have ladies queueing for his favours. Remember - it's not always the good-looking guys who get the girls all the time; no, it's the little weedy nerd in the corner, licking his eyebrows... Now, if you can share that with him and keep a straight face, you have qualified for the Graduate Diploma in Paretning a Teen Male! Marg [/QUOTE]
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