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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 285570" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Wow, what a rough road you are all on. I wish I had magic words to make it all better.</p><p></p><p>I do not know how our kids can get so involved with someone that they are, for lack of a better word, almost addicted to them. This woman sounds downright dangerous. Is she threatening to not have the baby, or to hurt herself or the baby?</p><p></p><p>Is there any chance they are cutting "together"? At one point there were some kids Wiz hung out with where the two kid who were "dating" would cut each other and then **** and lick the blood from the partner. Truly gross and scary to me. Heck, even at his darkest this scared Wiz.</p><p></p><p>I agree that you need to detach as much as you can. Not cut him off, or leave him stranded there if he truly needs you, but make SURE that you tell him he has to STAY at home the next time he calls. I don't even know if that would be possible, but you might want to try it. Depending on what the docs recommend, of course.</p><p></p><p>Have you considered Baker Acting him when he is home? They can put him on a 72 hour hold to assess him and try to stabilize him that way. </p><p></p><p>Is this woman truly pregnant with his child? If she is pulling the fake labor, could she also be faking the pregnancy? Is she abusing alcohol or drugs to your knowledge? There are some places that will either lock up a woman or put her on a probation type program if she is using while pregnant. </p><p></p><p>How is your son getting the funds to go there and back over and over? What other bills are you paying? If you pay his cell, can you go online and read the text messages he is getting and sending? Does he use facebook or myspace? Often you can get an idea of what someone is doing or thinking about if you can access those things.</p><p></p><p>If you search Detachment in the archives you will find some helpful info. Personally I would be very hard pressed to not help in this situation. Is your son truly competent right now?You may need to file a Person In Need of Supervision petition if he gets any worse. </p><p></p><p>What you CAN work on is to try not to get so very upset by all of this. Sounds callous and is super hard to do. But it does no one any good if you are constantly upset. Try to find a bit of time to meditate or do some other activity that is therapeutic for you. Exercise can also help with this since it generates endorphins.</p><p></p><p>Many many hugs and prayers. Hopefully there is something in my suggestions you can modify to work for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 285570, member: 1233"] Wow, what a rough road you are all on. I wish I had magic words to make it all better. I do not know how our kids can get so involved with someone that they are, for lack of a better word, almost addicted to them. This woman sounds downright dangerous. Is she threatening to not have the baby, or to hurt herself or the baby? Is there any chance they are cutting "together"? At one point there were some kids Wiz hung out with where the two kid who were "dating" would cut each other and then **** and lick the blood from the partner. Truly gross and scary to me. Heck, even at his darkest this scared Wiz. I agree that you need to detach as much as you can. Not cut him off, or leave him stranded there if he truly needs you, but make SURE that you tell him he has to STAY at home the next time he calls. I don't even know if that would be possible, but you might want to try it. Depending on what the docs recommend, of course. Have you considered Baker Acting him when he is home? They can put him on a 72 hour hold to assess him and try to stabilize him that way. Is this woman truly pregnant with his child? If she is pulling the fake labor, could she also be faking the pregnancy? Is she abusing alcohol or drugs to your knowledge? There are some places that will either lock up a woman or put her on a probation type program if she is using while pregnant. How is your son getting the funds to go there and back over and over? What other bills are you paying? If you pay his cell, can you go online and read the text messages he is getting and sending? Does he use facebook or myspace? Often you can get an idea of what someone is doing or thinking about if you can access those things. If you search Detachment in the archives you will find some helpful info. Personally I would be very hard pressed to not help in this situation. Is your son truly competent right now?You may need to file a Person In Need of Supervision petition if he gets any worse. What you CAN work on is to try not to get so very upset by all of this. Sounds callous and is super hard to do. But it does no one any good if you are constantly upset. Try to find a bit of time to meditate or do some other activity that is therapeutic for you. Exercise can also help with this since it generates endorphins. Many many hugs and prayers. Hopefully there is something in my suggestions you can modify to work for you. [/QUOTE]
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