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<blockquote data-quote="Elsi" data-source="post: 740949" data-attributes="member: 23349"><p>Trying, I am so sorry. This is hard stuff. </p><p></p><p>Are you familiar with oncept of ‘the pink cloud’ in recovery? It is a phenomenon where people feel GREAT in early recovery - only to crash again as reality sets in. Could this describe what your son is going through? It is apparently pretty common. </p><p></p><p>It is unfortunate that he is so against sober living. It sounds like he could definitely use the full time support right now. I hope some of the new people he has met will continue to be positive influences in his life and maybe be able to convince him to give it a try. </p><p></p><p>I have had three struggle with addiction, and N is the only one successfully recovering. He is six years clean now and has a wonderful family. His recovery was in prison though - and I think for him it had to be. He would not have gone willingly to a sober living facility either. But he did well in the three month court mandated halfway house. He needed that much structure to get through it. </p><p></p><p>C and S won’t even attend a meeting and are not ready for sobriety. C tries on his own, has mYbe a week clean and gets a bit of that ‘recovery high’. Then he falls off the wagon. He says he really wants to be better but he isn’t willing to get help. S hasn’t even tried. She is still at the ‘sobriety is for suckers and boring people’ stage. </p><p></p><p>I think you said all of the right things. I would have said the same. I am inclined to think that this rebound he is going through is real rather than manipulation based on what I have read. Addiction does terrible things to your brain chemistry, and going through that readjustment period must be awful. I struggle with depression myself and I know what it’s like to be in that dark place where it feels like there is no point in trying because nothing will ever get better. It’s your brain lying to you, but it feels very real. </p><p></p><p>I think I would continue just trying to be supportive and encouraging right now. He’s going to be emotionally volatile- expect it. Please take care of yourself also. I am sorry your marriage is not a support for you right now. I think these situations can be a strain even on a good relationship. Hang in there, and do something good just for you today.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsi, post: 740949, member: 23349"] Trying, I am so sorry. This is hard stuff. Are you familiar with oncept of ‘the pink cloud’ in recovery? It is a phenomenon where people feel GREAT in early recovery - only to crash again as reality sets in. Could this describe what your son is going through? It is apparently pretty common. It is unfortunate that he is so against sober living. It sounds like he could definitely use the full time support right now. I hope some of the new people he has met will continue to be positive influences in his life and maybe be able to convince him to give it a try. I have had three struggle with addiction, and N is the only one successfully recovering. He is six years clean now and has a wonderful family. His recovery was in prison though - and I think for him it had to be. He would not have gone willingly to a sober living facility either. But he did well in the three month court mandated halfway house. He needed that much structure to get through it. C and S won’t even attend a meeting and are not ready for sobriety. C tries on his own, has mYbe a week clean and gets a bit of that ‘recovery high’. Then he falls off the wagon. He says he really wants to be better but he isn’t willing to get help. S hasn’t even tried. She is still at the ‘sobriety is for suckers and boring people’ stage. I think you said all of the right things. I would have said the same. I am inclined to think that this rebound he is going through is real rather than manipulation based on what I have read. Addiction does terrible things to your brain chemistry, and going through that readjustment period must be awful. I struggle with depression myself and I know what it’s like to be in that dark place where it feels like there is no point in trying because nothing will ever get better. It’s your brain lying to you, but it feels very real. I think I would continue just trying to be supportive and encouraging right now. He’s going to be emotionally volatile- expect it. Please take care of yourself also. I am sorry your marriage is not a support for you right now. I think these situations can be a strain even on a good relationship. Hang in there, and do something good just for you today. [/QUOTE]
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