My two are still out there trying to figure things out. We are slowly, very slowly speaking with one another, but every situation varies. The biggest problem is their feeling of entitlement. Like we are supposed to rescue them no matter how old. Uh, NO......
They did blame me for the way they act, but that is typical behavior from an adult child going off the rails. They want their cake and eat it too, party, do what they want and live at home. The biggest button they push on us is the GUILT button. None of us is perfect, sure I have some mothering moments I would rather forget about, not my best me, have apologized to them, but I cannot have a redo, and they don't get to blame their bad choices on me because I am HUMAN. For you too LFTL. We are all human. These kids are very clever and know how to pull at our heartstrings.
Your daughter is 18, correct? So, you had her go live with Gramma at 14?
My friend sent her out of control 15 year old to live with her Aunt. It was the only way to get her to listen. She is now the mother of two beautiful kids and doing way better, she's 25. She gave her mom one heck of a battle in her teen years.
Hang in there dear. You may consider moving this thread to the P.E. forum, this is general parenting, more for parents with issues with minor children. You will get more response over at P.E.
I have to go out but will be back on later.
TTL
(((HUGS)))
leafy
