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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 682857" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Goung back ti borderline, most wont admit it or seek treatment. Thats the problem with having a personality disorder. They are erratic and do not sustain moods for long and most are very mean when angry, in a way other d cs arent. Thier meanness borders on cruelty and goes back and forth. You HAVE no choice but to set and stick to strong boundaries with a borderlines or you WILL repeatedly feel devestated and get hurt, even demolished by their ability to punish YOU if you dont do their bidding. But they will never ever agree they are sick and need intensive help if you let them walk on you. There is help, but it must be very specific and the mental health professional must understand borderline or it is a waste of time.</p><p></p><p>I am shocked at all the weekly money you have been spending on this worthless counselor. I would end it now. You need retirement money and this counselor has no clue what he is dealing with and you can not be told how the sessions go. She is of age and her privacy cant be breached. I dont think ANY therapy will help her if she doesnt see herself as a problem. She likely spends fifty minutes lying about herself and bashing YOU.</p><p></p><p>The best treatment for borderline must be entered into willingly by the patient or it wont work. It takes hard work for any borderline to change. The therapy is called dialectical behavioral therapy. Until this, borderlines were seen as untreatable. Even with DBT it depends on the will of the patient to admit she wants to stop being how she is and to want to change.</p><p></p><p>I dont know your daughter. If she is like most borderlines she will throw a fit if you suggest she may have it. Its up to you how you deal with it. Whatever else, however, understand that without extreme therapy and her hard work, she will probably remain emotionally unpredictable, cruel at times, needy and whiny at times and will never stay stable emotionally. She needs to learn how and that takes good therapy and her own hard work.</p><p></p><p>I wish you the best. Get your strong armor up and let any cruel words bounce off of your armor and keep your self respect and dignity. Be good to yourself and make sure you do the things you enjoy with those who are kind to you. Repel the drama...it is hers, not yours. Love yourself.</p><p></p><p>Lots and lots of hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 682857, member: 1550"] Goung back ti borderline, most wont admit it or seek treatment. Thats the problem with having a personality disorder. They are erratic and do not sustain moods for long and most are very mean when angry, in a way other d cs arent. Thier meanness borders on cruelty and goes back and forth. You HAVE no choice but to set and stick to strong boundaries with a borderlines or you WILL repeatedly feel devestated and get hurt, even demolished by their ability to punish YOU if you dont do their bidding. But they will never ever agree they are sick and need intensive help if you let them walk on you. There is help, but it must be very specific and the mental health professional must understand borderline or it is a waste of time. I am shocked at all the weekly money you have been spending on this worthless counselor. I would end it now. You need retirement money and this counselor has no clue what he is dealing with and you can not be told how the sessions go. She is of age and her privacy cant be breached. I dont think ANY therapy will help her if she doesnt see herself as a problem. She likely spends fifty minutes lying about herself and bashing YOU. The best treatment for borderline must be entered into willingly by the patient or it wont work. It takes hard work for any borderline to change. The therapy is called dialectical behavioral therapy. Until this, borderlines were seen as untreatable. Even with DBT it depends on the will of the patient to admit she wants to stop being how she is and to want to change. I dont know your daughter. If she is like most borderlines she will throw a fit if you suggest she may have it. Its up to you how you deal with it. Whatever else, however, understand that without extreme therapy and her hard work, she will probably remain emotionally unpredictable, cruel at times, needy and whiny at times and will never stay stable emotionally. She needs to learn how and that takes good therapy and her own hard work. I wish you the best. Get your strong armor up and let any cruel words bounce off of your armor and keep your self respect and dignity. Be good to yourself and make sure you do the things you enjoy with those who are kind to you. Repel the drama...it is hers, not yours. Love yourself. Lots and lots of hugs. [/QUOTE]
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