Welcome, Looking for the light.
I pulled this quote out of the many things you've said, because I think you should read it. No one should treat you in this manner - not even your child.
You also said that you have no advice for anyone. It doesn't matter. The struggle that you are writing about will touch many more people than you believe. Just being brave enough to talk candidly about what is happening is likely to help another person. When you are further on your journey, then you will be able to advise.
I thought my husband who is now gone might have had Borderline Personality Disorder. I found the book Stop Walking on Eggshells to be extremely helpful in giving me ideas on how to cope. Even if your daughter doesn't have Borderline (BPD), you can still draw strength from learning about it.
I'm sorry it hasn't felt much like "Good" Friday. Have a glass of wine and relax. 
Really that looks more like grape juice.
