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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 447078" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>I'm going to comment again here. Yes, what you are getting from your H is abuse. I cannot argue that. A DV shelter will have all kinds of information for you. It is UP TO YOU what you do with it.</p><p></p><p>It IS possible for people to change. What is NOT possible is you changing HIM, as Star said. HE has to change HIM, YOU worry about YOU (and the kids).</p><p></p><p>IF he is at all willing (and you would know best) to attempt counseling - see if you can have someone else bring it up. "Oh, it must be hard on your marriage to have difficult child acting up like that, have you thought about family or marital counseling?" You do it, and it's likely to cause an explosion. Someone else does - in a roundabout way - it doesn't sound like you're talking out of turn, and he may get upset but at least it won't be at you. If it DOES turn toward you - GET OUT.</p><p></p><p>Also. You're posting here... Please please understand that if it gets found... He may go "off the deep end". Clear your history.</p><p></p><p>And lastly - he doesn't want anyone coming over - does he have a problem with you leaving the house? I wasn't clear on that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 447078, member: 6705"] I'm going to comment again here. Yes, what you are getting from your H is abuse. I cannot argue that. A DV shelter will have all kinds of information for you. It is UP TO YOU what you do with it. It IS possible for people to change. What is NOT possible is you changing HIM, as Star said. HE has to change HIM, YOU worry about YOU (and the kids). IF he is at all willing (and you would know best) to attempt counseling - see if you can have someone else bring it up. "Oh, it must be hard on your marriage to have difficult child acting up like that, have you thought about family or marital counseling?" You do it, and it's likely to cause an explosion. Someone else does - in a roundabout way - it doesn't sound like you're talking out of turn, and he may get upset but at least it won't be at you. If it DOES turn toward you - GET OUT. Also. You're posting here... Please please understand that if it gets found... He may go "off the deep end". Clear your history. And lastly - he doesn't want anyone coming over - does he have a problem with you leaving the house? I wasn't clear on that. [/QUOTE]
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