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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 447174" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>There IS no excuse for I CAN NOT LEAVE.........NONE EVER. I will challenge ANY ----excuse ESPECIALLY with a child involved. </p><p></p><p>Hi Ready - </p><p></p><p>I thought I would educate instead of coming on really strong (sorry about that) I just see you in a lot of turmoil right now, not getting accurate information from him, and......understandably things are SO NOT FAIR. You've worked hard, your parents have put a great deal of money into a house for you and him,you've put a ton of sweat equity into that,your life, his life, a son & his son, and you have been handed a GOB of misinformation as to what will happen should you choose to do something for yourself and your son. </p><p></p><p>I thought I would hand you SOME FACTS about what DOES happen TO YOUR SON - if you do NOT decide for YOUR SON to take him from the current situation. See he has NO CHOICE. You...do. The violence that he is seeing now, the rude behavior towards women, the controlling behavior,the rudeness towards parents? All these things that his Father does? HE WILL Emulate because he WILL strive to BE - JUST.LIKE. DAD. 100% and then some. There will be NO disciplining him, spanking him, talking to him, putting him in the corner, taking the toys away to change the behavior. Actually truth be known he could be worse than Dad. Which behaviors like this and worse statistically and most likely will end your child up into a sad life, possibly trouble with the law, incarceration, drugs, or worse. Ask anyone here if I am painting this picture blacker than it is - just to get a jolt out of it. I'm not lying. I'm stating FACTS. Domestic violence housed children RARELY grow up to turn the opposite way and hate how they were raised and do the opposite. While it is possible? It's rarely happened. They usually behave the same as their Fathers, pick women that are shy, kind and then treat them JUST LIKE their MOthers were treated by their Fathers and perpetuate the cycle. </p><p></p><p>So I've listed some facts here - for you to look over. I'm in NO WAY - advocating divorce. Like I said - GO TALK TO your pastor or whomever you get your spiritual counseling from if that's your thing. I DO advocate safety and self esteem FIRST for you, your children and peace through understanding and caring. I absolutely do NOT belive in hitting and violence in a domestic manner PERIOD.....through intimidation, mind games, words, verbal abuse, or physical violence. I am a large woman, I don't take junk from no one, and I walked away from EVERYTHING -----and I mean EVERYTHING------and lived on the street with my son in a stolen van with NO WHERE TO GO - no family - NO MONEY --and only $20 in emergency food stamps - and I'd do it again to have the peace in my heart and mind I have now -----and now? I have a home, and a son that is getting himself turned around, and a life. I'd give it all up again to have 1/2 a chance to save my son - and work 3 jobs again to save my son - it was worth it. That house, the pool, the clothes, the truck - the furniture? Don't miss it at all......NOT AT ALL....it can rot. But my kid won't. </p><p></p><p>Here's the web site - hope you get a moment to look at the articles there. <a href="http://www.growing/" target="_blank">www.growing</a> .com</p><p></p><p>I really mean it when I say - STOP .....THINK....and DO SOMETHING FOR ONCE IN YOUR LIFE........JUST.FOR.YOUR.FUTURE...TEN YEARS FROM NOW to make YOUR LIFE and your SONS' life......BETTER. WIth or WITHOUT THAT PARTICULAR HOUSE? HOW MUCH BETTER WILL YOU BE IF YOU >>>>>>(fill in your own blank) </p><p></p><p>Hugs & LOVE - I mean that......Star</p><p><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">Here is the web site - <a href="http://www.growing.com" target="_blank">www.growing.com</a> = I would tell YOU to pay SPECIAL attention to the WHEEL.......It helps us from MAKING EXCUSES for the abuser.....</span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px">Lots of information there. </span></p><p><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 447174, member: 4964"] There IS no excuse for I CAN NOT LEAVE.........NONE EVER. I will challenge ANY ----excuse ESPECIALLY with a child involved. Hi Ready - I thought I would educate instead of coming on really strong (sorry about that) I just see you in a lot of turmoil right now, not getting accurate information from him, and......understandably things are SO NOT FAIR. You've worked hard, your parents have put a great deal of money into a house for you and him,you've put a ton of sweat equity into that,your life, his life, a son & his son, and you have been handed a GOB of misinformation as to what will happen should you choose to do something for yourself and your son. I thought I would hand you SOME FACTS about what DOES happen TO YOUR SON - if you do NOT decide for YOUR SON to take him from the current situation. See he has NO CHOICE. You...do. The violence that he is seeing now, the rude behavior towards women, the controlling behavior,the rudeness towards parents? All these things that his Father does? HE WILL Emulate because he WILL strive to BE - JUST.LIKE. DAD. 100% and then some. There will be NO disciplining him, spanking him, talking to him, putting him in the corner, taking the toys away to change the behavior. Actually truth be known he could be worse than Dad. Which behaviors like this and worse statistically and most likely will end your child up into a sad life, possibly trouble with the law, incarceration, drugs, or worse. Ask anyone here if I am painting this picture blacker than it is - just to get a jolt out of it. I'm not lying. I'm stating FACTS. Domestic violence housed children RARELY grow up to turn the opposite way and hate how they were raised and do the opposite. While it is possible? It's rarely happened. They usually behave the same as their Fathers, pick women that are shy, kind and then treat them JUST LIKE their MOthers were treated by their Fathers and perpetuate the cycle. So I've listed some facts here - for you to look over. I'm in NO WAY - advocating divorce. Like I said - GO TALK TO your pastor or whomever you get your spiritual counseling from if that's your thing. I DO advocate safety and self esteem FIRST for you, your children and peace through understanding and caring. I absolutely do NOT belive in hitting and violence in a domestic manner PERIOD.....through intimidation, mind games, words, verbal abuse, or physical violence. I am a large woman, I don't take junk from no one, and I walked away from EVERYTHING -----and I mean EVERYTHING------and lived on the street with my son in a stolen van with NO WHERE TO GO - no family - NO MONEY --and only $20 in emergency food stamps - and I'd do it again to have the peace in my heart and mind I have now -----and now? I have a home, and a son that is getting himself turned around, and a life. I'd give it all up again to have 1/2 a chance to save my son - and work 3 jobs again to save my son - it was worth it. That house, the pool, the clothes, the truck - the furniture? Don't miss it at all......NOT AT ALL....it can rot. But my kid won't. Here's the web site - hope you get a moment to look at the articles there. [URL="http://www.growing/"]www.growing[/URL] .com I really mean it when I say - STOP .....THINK....and DO SOMETHING FOR ONCE IN YOUR LIFE........JUST.FOR.YOUR.FUTURE...TEN YEARS FROM NOW to make YOUR LIFE and your SONS' life......BETTER. WIth or WITHOUT THAT PARTICULAR HOUSE? HOW MUCH BETTER WILL YOU BE IF YOU >>>>>>(fill in your own blank) Hugs & LOVE - I mean that......Star [SIZE=2] Here is the web site - [URL="http://www.growing.com"]www.growing.com[/URL] = I would tell YOU to pay SPECIAL attention to the WHEEL.......It helps us from MAKING EXCUSES for the abuser..... Lots of information there. [/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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