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<blockquote data-quote="Sarmandak" data-source="post: 501609" data-attributes="member: 13666"><p>Thank you.. Your comments really help put some things in prospective. The house is safe its just not nice to look at! I get rather self conscious about that. Especially since I am home all the time now I still find it hard to keep up. </p><p></p><p>I think my biggest fear with community/public situations is that he will get himself in a lot of trouble with unacceptable behavior and not really comprehend the conquences. He is in kinda do then think mode. Sometimes it seems like when he is really angry he just does not get that what he is doing is not right. My husband however does not agree and thinks when he is angry that he is in complete control. My husband has little faith in psychology and does not really buy into mental illness. This has made this process a little difficult because he has little patience with the kids. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>He does have explosive episodes at both houses but they tend to happen more at home. I do agree that he does seem to function better in the quieter environment at Nana's. He does clash quite often with his father and oldest sister when at home. I think my biggest concern about him spending so much time away from home is that he is not learning to get along with the family unit. He also displays little patience with me after he has been over there more and is more demanding in his requests. For instance I expect when he is home that he does things for him self that he is capable of doing where as at Nana's he is waited on hand and foot. The instant he does not get his own way he wants to go to Nana's. Now if he is in trouble I do not allow him to go until he is calm and any loss of privileges he receives is relayed to Nana as well. When he is upset-angry I let him go simply because if he has clashed with his oldest sister or his father I see him struggle so much to calm down and regain control that I think its better to remove him from the situation. I just feel like I have failed when that happens. Our home is very loud and chaotic a lot of the time. </p><p></p><p>My oldest difficult child 1 is moody, stubborn and can be a little obsessive. She is 17 and not always a nice person to deal with. With her however she is very disrespectful to people but she is not violent or destructive. She has a temper and has been diagnosed with ADD in the last year. She has problems following the rules and giving conquences seems to do little good. Part of that I think is being a teenager and part of it is just her temper. It is her mouth and her mean streak that bother me the most. She will pick on difficult child 2 just to make him mad. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>He saw a doctor at Children's Behavioral Health Clinic in November. I do not have a copy of the report yet. (That is a whole other problem) however when I spoke to the doctor on the phone she told me that she diagnosed him with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Mood Disorder-not otherwise specified and Conduct Disorder. She is recommending community based services which the hospital can not offer us because we live 40 minutes away and they do not service our county. He also had a screening at the Autism Clinic at Children's back in July of 2010. That is how we got our referal to the Behavioral Clinic finally. I do have a copy of that report but did not agree with a lot of what the woman said. She made some comments in the report that were completely false from what she was told and also when describing his physical appearance noted he did not wear glasses but he does and was wearing them the whole time. His behavior that day was pretty horrid so I was concerned that he did not get a unbiased and complete exam. Originally my therapist had refered him there for possible Aspergers. The clinic did not agree and sent us to the Behavioral clinic instead. I just feel like in the last 2 years we have been run around so much! Now we have to see someone new again because Children's can not provide the recommended services. </p><p></p><p>Can you explain to me what a Neuro exam consists of? The doctor who saw him has her PhD in Psychology. It lists her as a <span style="color: #555555"><span style="font-family: 'Arial'">Clinical Child Psychologist.</span></span> We had to bribe him to get him to participate in the testing because it took 2 visits of 4 hours each. He is so opposed to participating with any of this and gets so upset because he thinks we are all implying that he is broken etc..</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sarmandak, post: 501609, member: 13666"] Thank you.. Your comments really help put some things in prospective. The house is safe its just not nice to look at! I get rather self conscious about that. Especially since I am home all the time now I still find it hard to keep up. I think my biggest fear with community/public situations is that he will get himself in a lot of trouble with unacceptable behavior and not really comprehend the conquences. He is in kinda do then think mode. Sometimes it seems like when he is really angry he just does not get that what he is doing is not right. My husband however does not agree and thinks when he is angry that he is in complete control. My husband has little faith in psychology and does not really buy into mental illness. This has made this process a little difficult because he has little patience with the kids. He does have explosive episodes at both houses but they tend to happen more at home. I do agree that he does seem to function better in the quieter environment at Nana's. He does clash quite often with his father and oldest sister when at home. I think my biggest concern about him spending so much time away from home is that he is not learning to get along with the family unit. He also displays little patience with me after he has been over there more and is more demanding in his requests. For instance I expect when he is home that he does things for him self that he is capable of doing where as at Nana's he is waited on hand and foot. The instant he does not get his own way he wants to go to Nana's. Now if he is in trouble I do not allow him to go until he is calm and any loss of privileges he receives is relayed to Nana as well. When he is upset-angry I let him go simply because if he has clashed with his oldest sister or his father I see him struggle so much to calm down and regain control that I think its better to remove him from the situation. I just feel like I have failed when that happens. Our home is very loud and chaotic a lot of the time. My oldest difficult child 1 is moody, stubborn and can be a little obsessive. She is 17 and not always a nice person to deal with. With her however she is very disrespectful to people but she is not violent or destructive. She has a temper and has been diagnosed with ADD in the last year. She has problems following the rules and giving conquences seems to do little good. Part of that I think is being a teenager and part of it is just her temper. It is her mouth and her mean streak that bother me the most. She will pick on difficult child 2 just to make him mad. He saw a doctor at Children's Behavioral Health Clinic in November. I do not have a copy of the report yet. (That is a whole other problem) however when I spoke to the doctor on the phone she told me that she diagnosed him with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Mood Disorder-not otherwise specified and Conduct Disorder. She is recommending community based services which the hospital can not offer us because we live 40 minutes away and they do not service our county. He also had a screening at the Autism Clinic at Children's back in July of 2010. That is how we got our referal to the Behavioral Clinic finally. I do have a copy of that report but did not agree with a lot of what the woman said. She made some comments in the report that were completely false from what she was told and also when describing his physical appearance noted he did not wear glasses but he does and was wearing them the whole time. His behavior that day was pretty horrid so I was concerned that he did not get a unbiased and complete exam. Originally my therapist had refered him there for possible Aspergers. The clinic did not agree and sent us to the Behavioral clinic instead. I just feel like in the last 2 years we have been run around so much! Now we have to see someone new again because Children's can not provide the recommended services. Can you explain to me what a Neuro exam consists of? The doctor who saw him has her PhD in Psychology. It lists her as a [COLOR=#555555][FONT=Arial]Clinical Child Psychologist.[/FONT][/COLOR] We had to bribe him to get him to participate in the testing because it took 2 visits of 4 hours each. He is so opposed to participating with any of this and gets so upset because he thinks we are all implying that he is broken etc.. [/QUOTE]
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