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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 423485" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>That is not an easy age. Teen years are tough. </p><p></p><p>As far as school.......let him take the consequences they dish out and let it go. Time he feel the responsibility. In my opinion by the time their teens the school wars are just not worth it anymore. I backed off my kids when they entered high school. It was totally up to them. All the school wars got me was world war III at home anyway. Discovered much to my surprise they did no worse, and in many respects did much better. Home time settled down some and tension eased because that issue alone was a major part of the battles. School was less than thrilled with me, but like I told them......it's your job, my job is to parent. Let me focus on other areas. </p><p></p><p>Mine? I pinpointed something that meant a lot to them and that was my main target as a consequence for breaking the rules. easy child it was hanging with friends/sports. Nichole it was hanging with her friends. Travis was the computer and playstation. Hard to use a computer that doesn't have a keyboard or a mouse. Likewise hard to play a gaming system that doesn't have controllers. Often with difficult children we have to get downright creative. Much of the time it feels like we're making no progress.......but now that mine are grown, you'll find later down the road they hear and remember more than you'd ever dream. lol </p><p></p><p>You have your hands full. Easy for someone outside the situation to pass judgment. Like you said, they're not living with it. I don't know what diagnosis you're dealing with.....but you've certainly landed in the best possible place. Welcome to the board. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/hugs.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":hugs:" title="hugs :hugs:" data-shortname=":hugs:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 423485, member: 84"] That is not an easy age. Teen years are tough. As far as school.......let him take the consequences they dish out and let it go. Time he feel the responsibility. In my opinion by the time their teens the school wars are just not worth it anymore. I backed off my kids when they entered high school. It was totally up to them. All the school wars got me was world war III at home anyway. Discovered much to my surprise they did no worse, and in many respects did much better. Home time settled down some and tension eased because that issue alone was a major part of the battles. School was less than thrilled with me, but like I told them......it's your job, my job is to parent. Let me focus on other areas. Mine? I pinpointed something that meant a lot to them and that was my main target as a consequence for breaking the rules. easy child it was hanging with friends/sports. Nichole it was hanging with her friends. Travis was the computer and playstation. Hard to use a computer that doesn't have a keyboard or a mouse. Likewise hard to play a gaming system that doesn't have controllers. Often with difficult children we have to get downright creative. Much of the time it feels like we're making no progress.......but now that mine are grown, you'll find later down the road they hear and remember more than you'd ever dream. lol You have your hands full. Easy for someone outside the situation to pass judgment. Like you said, they're not living with it. I don't know what diagnosis you're dealing with.....but you've certainly landed in the best possible place. Welcome to the board. :happy::hugs: [/QUOTE]
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