Katie has made up an excuse not to attend the memorial. I knew it was coming. I believe it is the whole reason she brought up the argument with Nichole in the first place. When that didn't work, she found another excuse. M has supposedly gotten a job as a dishwasher for a steak house not far from them. He didn't want to "risk" his job by telling them katie had her father's memorial to attend on sat, even before they had the schedule made up. Today I pinned her down about it because we needed to know for transportation issues, and I wasn't waiting until the last second to find out. She said M has to work and she has no one else to watch the boys. I didn't make a big deal about it. It's up to her if she comes or not. I'll be darned if I'm begging her to come to her own Dad's memorial. Disappointed? I think it's hard to be disappointed when I knew she was going to do it. Disgusted is more like it. It's not like it's going to be a long drawn out traumatic event or something. He's in a nice little box. His closest friend will be speaking and probably say a prayer. easy child may speak too, she's been working on something, so I'm not sure, she hasn't said anymore about it. That's it. M may or may not have a job, I really could care less. He probably doesn't because she's made up some ridiculous excuses as to why Kayla isn't allowed to call me. (gee, I had 2 difficult children ...not counting katie...and I can't ever recall an occasion where I grounded them from talking to their grandma on the phone) Maybe she figures Kayla will spill the beans. Don't care. I won't be contacting her anymore. She can be the one making the effort, or there will be no effort made. She's a waste of time. If she ever grows up and turns into a functional adult, she'll have to figure it out for herself. I think it would take a miracle just her get her head out of her own *ss, let alone to actually grow up. I realize that people grieve differently. But this is a matter of respect. If it was a "normal" funeral with the visitation, burial ect..........Ok, no. I guess I couldn't understand it even then. This is her father, for Pete's sake. We let this be her decision because it needed to be. But it showed us more than she could ever realize. As far as we're concerned? It makes it more convenient. I don't have to drive, which I've been worrying about. There will be no difficult child drama, because that difficult child won't be there.