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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 388585"><p>Could you say something to her like "Putting aside the word 'mental illness,' if you feel the need to talk with a therapist, your father and I would be willing to talk with our family physician or someone equally knowlegeable and find one for you." I think you said you did something like this before....but the waters were mudddy. Maybe getting a great recommendation....one that is neutral with great credentials could be of help, especially if you daughter consents to go. Well...a tall order...but if the pain is great enough, she might like to go on her own. I too am glad that you had a chance to tell her again that you love her. </p><p>by the way, our daughter rather often pulls out the 'you don't love me' card, especially when we are denying her something she wants. It usually goes in one ear and out the other. The other day though, she was crying this hysterically in the voice recorder message and it was hard to hear. Hard to hear, 'cause it seems she may really believe this. Either way (whether she actually believes it, is usuing it as a manipulative tool or a mixture or both....its a mess...and I just can't buy into it). I just don't believe in the end it would do anyone any good to do so. She knows she is loved and as appropriate, we help her and care for her....etc. Not an easy thing when made complicated by the confusion/drama.</p><p> </p><p>ETA: Yep, it would have to be a very wise, highly trained therapist who will not buy into Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) behaviors...one who wants his or her client to move forward. Perhaps DBT...REality Therapy...REBT...a mixture of several. A therapist willing to try different things.....but my guess is that "wisdom" and "experience" would be key. This is NOT an easy task...not typical in any way. Not for the weak at heart.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 388585"] Could you say something to her like "Putting aside the word 'mental illness,' if you feel the need to talk with a therapist, your father and I would be willing to talk with our family physician or someone equally knowlegeable and find one for you." I think you said you did something like this before....but the waters were mudddy. Maybe getting a great recommendation....one that is neutral with great credentials could be of help, especially if you daughter consents to go. Well...a tall order...but if the pain is great enough, she might like to go on her own. I too am glad that you had a chance to tell her again that you love her. by the way, our daughter rather often pulls out the 'you don't love me' card, especially when we are denying her something she wants. It usually goes in one ear and out the other. The other day though, she was crying this hysterically in the voice recorder message and it was hard to hear. Hard to hear, 'cause it seems she may really believe this. Either way (whether she actually believes it, is usuing it as a manipulative tool or a mixture or both....its a mess...and I just can't buy into it). I just don't believe in the end it would do anyone any good to do so. She knows she is loved and as appropriate, we help her and care for her....etc. Not an easy thing when made complicated by the confusion/drama. ETA: Yep, it would have to be a very wise, highly trained therapist who will not buy into Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) behaviors...one who wants his or her client to move forward. Perhaps DBT...REality Therapy...REBT...a mixture of several. A therapist willing to try different things.....but my guess is that "wisdom" and "experience" would be key. This is NOT an easy task...not typical in any way. Not for the weak at heart. [/QUOTE]
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