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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 321536" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>Gosh, it makes me wish I could "lement about the good old days"!! When we wouldn't dare to ask this of our parents.</p><p></p><p>I did have difficult child ask me if it is okay to have a toast at his friends house New Years Eve. He will be shy of his 17th birthday then. 2 years shy of our drinking age of 19. This would be after discussion with his friends dad, where he is going for that night. The dad said his sons get a small glass to toast midnight and Matt would not get one if I didn't call. Matt wasn't angry that I wanted to say no. We did discuss why I said no. We then discussed that he is responsable, has tons of chances to get high or drink right in his school (true true true) and that when with his 20 year old friend (friends since infancy really) he has never drank,e ven though friend could legally purchase alcohol (true). After discussion, we decided he could do the toast. We discussed how abuse of alcohol is different in other countries where somethign like a small glass to toast an occassion is not banned, even from younger children. Also true. If difficult child had been crossing a line with drugs and alcohol, I would have stuck to my guns. He was told my change of mind and why. And also that if he EVER defied this, and if he drinks before legal age without my consent, it would be a lockdown like he'd never known. LOL </p><p>Having said all that, if he were pushign for parties etc, I'd be flipping! Kids are not the same today as in our day or our parents or grandparents. Its a crazy world to grow up in.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 321536, member: 4264"] Gosh, it makes me wish I could "lement about the good old days"!! When we wouldn't dare to ask this of our parents. I did have difficult child ask me if it is okay to have a toast at his friends house New Years Eve. He will be shy of his 17th birthday then. 2 years shy of our drinking age of 19. This would be after discussion with his friends dad, where he is going for that night. The dad said his sons get a small glass to toast midnight and Matt would not get one if I didn't call. Matt wasn't angry that I wanted to say no. We did discuss why I said no. We then discussed that he is responsable, has tons of chances to get high or drink right in his school (true true true) and that when with his 20 year old friend (friends since infancy really) he has never drank,e ven though friend could legally purchase alcohol (true). After discussion, we decided he could do the toast. We discussed how abuse of alcohol is different in other countries where somethign like a small glass to toast an occassion is not banned, even from younger children. Also true. If difficult child had been crossing a line with drugs and alcohol, I would have stuck to my guns. He was told my change of mind and why. And also that if he EVER defied this, and if he drinks before legal age without my consent, it would be a lockdown like he'd never known. LOL Having said all that, if he were pushign for parties etc, I'd be flipping! Kids are not the same today as in our day or our parents or grandparents. Its a crazy world to grow up in. [/QUOTE]
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