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<blockquote data-quote="Umberlee168" data-source="post: 616871" data-attributes="member: 17539"><p>He is impulsive but not hyperactive. The scant diagnosis we have so far are just from his primary care. I'm researching neuropsychologist facilities now and it looks like it would be a good 4 hour drive so it will take some planning. We do have a psychologist here who does some very extensive testing and evaluations and recommendations for kids so I'm going to get him seen there (behavior health and wellness center). </p><p></p><p>I never used drugs or alcohol during my pregnancy. I mean, I turned 21 when I was pregnant and I drank coke on my first night in a bar. I had a tiny taste of champagne on New Year's Eve and tasted a friend's "Sex on the Beach" because I was curious. That was it.</p><p></p><p>I was so excited to be pregnant and starting a family that I took really good care of myself aside from the massive amounts of stress I was under due to ex-husband's behavior.</p><p></p><p>I met with difficult child tonight briefly and we talked a little about what happened. What scares me is his inability to take responsibility for his actions. Apparently at the sleepover he was at, they were bored and walked to a friend's house. I don't know this kid or anything about him and never gave him permission to go there. Over there were a bunch of older teens who, Punch says, "forced" him and his friend to drink with the threat of knocking them out if they didn't. I don't know if I believe this or not. Once they had a drink he says this kid kept on threatening them if they didn't drink more. It sounds pretty fishy to me. He kept saying that the ONLY reason he drank was because he was afraid this kid would seriously hurt him. I asked why he didn't just leave or call 911 or something and he then turned it into a tired old tirade he has about he needs a cell phone (which he had, but it was taken away because of an escalating series of behaviors related to it). He actually still has it for WiFi, he just doesn't have service on it right now.</p><p></p><p>Anyway this was frustrating because it just speaks to the lack of insight and accountability he continues to express. He finally ended up getting upset when I told him that husband is planning on moving out. He said that if my husband wants to move out because my kid drank then maybe I married the wrong guy. And he's right. But then he messaged me awhile later and said he doesn't want us to get divorced because he doesn't want the two littlest kids to have a broken home. Man, talk about heartbreaking because here my "screwed up" 12 year-old kid has more heart and reflection than my 37 year-old man-child at home who would rather kick us all to the curb than share a roof with a struggling step-kid. Blows my mind.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Umberlee168, post: 616871, member: 17539"] He is impulsive but not hyperactive. The scant diagnosis we have so far are just from his primary care. I'm researching neuropsychologist facilities now and it looks like it would be a good 4 hour drive so it will take some planning. We do have a psychologist here who does some very extensive testing and evaluations and recommendations for kids so I'm going to get him seen there (behavior health and wellness center). I never used drugs or alcohol during my pregnancy. I mean, I turned 21 when I was pregnant and I drank coke on my first night in a bar. I had a tiny taste of champagne on New Year's Eve and tasted a friend's "Sex on the Beach" because I was curious. That was it. I was so excited to be pregnant and starting a family that I took really good care of myself aside from the massive amounts of stress I was under due to ex-husband's behavior. I met with difficult child tonight briefly and we talked a little about what happened. What scares me is his inability to take responsibility for his actions. Apparently at the sleepover he was at, they were bored and walked to a friend's house. I don't know this kid or anything about him and never gave him permission to go there. Over there were a bunch of older teens who, Punch says, "forced" him and his friend to drink with the threat of knocking them out if they didn't. I don't know if I believe this or not. Once they had a drink he says this kid kept on threatening them if they didn't drink more. It sounds pretty fishy to me. He kept saying that the ONLY reason he drank was because he was afraid this kid would seriously hurt him. I asked why he didn't just leave or call 911 or something and he then turned it into a tired old tirade he has about he needs a cell phone (which he had, but it was taken away because of an escalating series of behaviors related to it). He actually still has it for WiFi, he just doesn't have service on it right now. Anyway this was frustrating because it just speaks to the lack of insight and accountability he continues to express. He finally ended up getting upset when I told him that husband is planning on moving out. He said that if my husband wants to move out because my kid drank then maybe I married the wrong guy. And he's right. But then he messaged me awhile later and said he doesn't want us to get divorced because he doesn't want the two littlest kids to have a broken home. Man, talk about heartbreaking because here my "screwed up" 12 year-old kid has more heart and reflection than my 37 year-old man-child at home who would rather kick us all to the curb than share a roof with a struggling step-kid. Blows my mind. [/QUOTE]
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